That this really pisses me off every single day?

[JimmyHillsChin]

When my DH and I first got together, he used to text me when I was in work to ask what knickers I was wearing. Back then, in the honeymoon phase it was quite sexy and I’d reply telling him. Fast forward ten years; we’re now married and have two young DCs. The underwear thing lost it’s novelty for me about 9.5 years ago but he still asks me. I hate it, he knows I hate it, but he still asks. We’re in our 40s FFS!! So AIBU and this is just a harmless little thing and I shouldn’t let it wind me up or AINBU and I’m justified in it being annoying?

@Sidisawetlettuce 🤣🤣

Harvest knickers... All is safely gathered in. I do think you should mix up these answers with links to wanted new underwear and ask him what he us wearing

Bless him? Trying to keep the magic alive by continually doing something that his wife has asked him not to do? Funny way of trying to keep the magic alive.

If he knows you don’t like it but still persists then he’s deliberately trying to upset or annoy you. I’d ask him why. Does he hate you?

My dh still says and does things that were cute when we started dating and now 15 years later not so much. But I play along (mostly!) as they're harmless (e.g a little kissing ritual) as I don't want to hurt his feelings and tbh when I look around at other couples I'm pleased my dh is wanting so be so affectionate. If it really annoys you though then you need to put a stop to it, or make a joke of it and create a new routine.

Couples might. This couple doesn't because one of them doesn't. It's the whole consent thing.

@JimmyHillsChin tell him you're wearing Bridget Jones style knickers and ask him if that does it for him! Is he still your Mr Darcy though?

Lol, apart from the thread that’s descended into the usual bile about brexit, MN is quite amusing this evening.

If you've told him to stop and he keeps doing it then, no you're not being unreasonable

Can you have a calm conversation and explain that you hate it? If it is daily for a decade I do not think that that is a petty thing, and if he thrives on the fact he is winding you up perhaps he underestimates how much this is getting you down.

Perhaps suggest an alternative. At this stage in your relationship would a loving/supportive/thinking of you message be something you would appreciate when you are at work? Or just, if you must text me please do not mention your knickers, use your imagination.

Failing that set up auto-reply on your phone (I can think of several amusing options for messages) and ignore whilst you are at work?

😂

That's really ew.

Though I wouldn't have tolerated that the very first time.

Lol, apart from the thread that’s descended into the usual bile about brexit

What?

Have you actually been responding to this every day for 9.5 years even though you didn't want to? Why?

we used to do things like that about ten years ago no maybe longer-if youve asked him to stop hes bu

what did he say when you said please dont do it anymore

"I hate it, he knows I hate it, but he still asks."

It wouldn't matter what 'it' is. He's choosing to be an arsehole.

I’d have fun with it and say something like ‘I’m wearing three day old smelly granny pants with skiddies, wanna sniff ‘em when I get home’ 😉

"I am wearing the washed out grey, frayed elastic waistband, semi crotchless 10 year old Primark multipack pants"

Tried that sort of thing. Doesn’t work!

I would do this too!!

Yes loads of times 😣

It’s wrong because you’ve asked him to stop and he hasn’t.

It could be sweet if you liked it or it was only occasionally. I do not like that you have asked him to stop and he hasn't, that is disrespectful. Has he said why he won't stop? I would find him disrespecting what I have said very off-putting.

And what does he say?

Since DC mine are pretty much too!! I have two sorts of black comfy shorts styles that I wear. No lacy thongs for me anymore 😳

BTW he doesn’t text me anymore, he asks me in person. Usually in front of the DC which infuriates me even more!