To think if you borrow something you should return it?

[justawoman93]

Me and DH lent out a piece of equipment that cost us £100 to what I thought was a good friend.
The other day DH needed it to do a job, reliezed friend hadn't returned it. So I messaged her asking for it back to be told she had sold it saying she thought it was hers and didn't relieze it was our item. (She knew full well it was a loan I have texts of her asking to borrow it)

She hasn't offered the money for said item and simply starting complaining she's skint and has no money (don't we all right now)

AIBU to be very pissed off? I'm not even sure I want to remain friends with her now as she clearly doesn't respect our friendship enough or am I being a bit over the top?

I'm really disappointed as I don't usually lend out things unless I can trust said person and she's completely broken my trust but on the other hand she is going through a bit of a rough time right now so I feel guilty for being angry. We can't afford to replace the piece of equipment that's been sold either so now the job will have to wait a couple of months which again is something that needed to be done quite quickly.

I do have friends.
Just don't want to be friends with someone who takes my things and sell them. What a pathetic troll.

She was bang out of order. I'd worry if she ever came to my house she's steal something to sell.

Wrong!

I would absolutely ditch this ‘friend’,
block her number and if she ever try’s to contact you again either ignore or reply with just No.
Also if you have mutual friends make it plain that you will not be attending any events where she is and don’t be afraid to tell people why if they ask. No wonder her friends are all dropping her.

What, she literally robbed you. I'd threaten to go to police or small claims if she doesn't pay it back within the month. Then definitely cut all ties. I wonder what else's she's stolen from you in the past wtf.

Any update today? Have you heard from the thief? :)

YANBU That’s absolutely ridiculous, and she only had it for 3 weeks?! She needs to buy you a new one from the money she made selling it! I’d be really pissed off too. And yeah trust would be gone.

It doesn't work like that. When they rule in your favour, the defendant has to pay all costs! So you'll be refunded your cost

You add the costs on. So she will have to pay £100 + costs.

NameTag labels. Like at school label everything x

YANBU - your friend is a cheeky, thieving f*ck!

You should take her to small claims court for the amount of money it will cost you to replace the stolen item. Not for the amount she sold it for.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/legal-system/small-claims/making-a-small-claim/

Oh that’s awful! You are definitely not being unreasonable. You don’t just ‘forget’ that you’ve borrowed something off someone, let alone sell it on.. I’m not surprised you don’t want to be friends with her! What a terrible thing to do.

This is called stealing

What was the item?

3 weeks only, she knew exactly what she was doing!! Scabby cow. There is just no need for that what so ever. How dare she infact.

That would be the end of the friendship for me, not the 100 pounds (although right now that's alot) but the fact that shes obviously lying, has no consideration for you or your personal belongings and could be so horrid as to do something like that... nope, bye bye. Cut your losses and call it a day. YANBU

Scabby cow @Notwiththebullshizz
such an underused and schoolie put down. As grown ups we lose and stop using those school classics

This might get a mention in the DailyFail you can share it with her. peoples jury and all that!

So she thinks it's OK to steal from you to fund her holiday? She's a CF of the highest order and I would pursue her for the money/replacement on principle given her attitude!

My H does it. I am not a big fan of most things he does. I am a person who plans and respect that others might plan around my actions.

My H is brought up with holier than thou attitude. He borrows and he thinks that it was others privilage to have had the oppurtunity to lend him.
He just doesnt care to return, if they ask, he does return else ... everything in the universe is his right, why bother.

I'm guessing that wasn't the attribute that first attracted you to him?

Well he's an arse then eh?

Why did you ever marry him @Lostandlost ?

A friend wouldn't do this. She's sold it because she's skint and won't admit it. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and one less leech in your life