To think if you borrow something you should return it?

[justawoman93]

Me and DH lent out a piece of equipment that cost us £100 to what I thought was a good friend.
The other day DH needed it to do a job, reliezed friend hadn't returned it. So I messaged her asking for it back to be told she had sold it saying she thought it was hers and didn't relieze it was our item. (She knew full well it was a loan I have texts of her asking to borrow it)

She hasn't offered the money for said item and simply starting complaining she's skint and has no money (don't we all right now)

AIBU to be very pissed off? I'm not even sure I want to remain friends with her now as she clearly doesn't respect our friendship enough or am I being a bit over the top?

I'm really disappointed as I don't usually lend out things unless I can trust said person and she's completely broken my trust but on the other hand she is going through a bit of a rough time right now so I feel guilty for being angry. We can't afford to replace the piece of equipment that's been sold either so now the job will have to wait a couple of months which again is something that needed to be done quite quickly.

what was the item?

You would borrow something and then sell it and keep the money ?????

Something tells me @A580Hojas Is OP's ex friend.

I would definitely spread the word so nobody else has to deal with this rip off merchant. No wonder her 'friends' are dropping her. You are probably not the first one to be done over by this bitch.

Please do small claims, her behaviour today demonstrates that she knows fine well that’s a thieving arsehole.

You must be condoning theft or pull this kind of shit yourself if you think this was fine!

What - steal and item from a friend?

Don't get mad, get even.

Take her to Small Claims Court.

That is just so awful. What a bitch.

It's one thing to "borrow" something and keep it. It's a whole different ball game to flog it as if it were yours.

I wouldn't be friends with someone as flaky as that

Small claims court and she can pay the costs.

You would claim for the actual value of the item, not the amount she sold it for. Also, the police are free…

I don’t know who is more strange, your ‘friend’ or the PP who said they would sell an item borrowed from a friend?! Was that a joke? I definitely wouldn’t bother with anyone who did that, if they sold your item after 3 weeks loan or it’s a lie, either looks very bad on them. YANBU.

Hahahahaha

Under the circumstances, reconsider taking her down the small claims route

this Is what you call crxckhead behaviour. It’s no different to stealing your friends gold and taking it to the pawn shop. You should confront her about it don’t take the excuses

Yabu. I think what your friend did was fine and I would probably do the same.

So you're a thief as well, @A580Hojas

OP, I hope you can forward the texts about the loan of the equipment to your friend, and ask her to replace the thing.

But I wouldn't be continuing this friendship, frankly.

My God.
I've heard it all now.
I'm so sorry, OP.

I think that's called theft and I would be telling her so (and everyone else you both know). Utterly shameful.

Are you the 'friend' ?

I am sorry op. You should be angry. We are on our third vax washer after the last two were returned broken. When I friend recently asked to borrow it I said no.
Your 'friend' owes you that money. She may have been desperate but it is still theft.

Really?? You would borrow items from friends and then sell them?? That’s dreadful behaviour.

You would ask to borrow an item then sell it? Glad you aren’t my friend.

Your friend is a thief. I'd be having no more to do with her. Sounds like she's shot herself in the foot anyway if you do a lot for her.
Do you have any mutual friends? If so I'd be making sure they know what happened so she doesn't try and twist this into her being the victim and you being ostracized.

That’s disgusting behaviour…borrow means have the item for a while and give back. Try taking library books out on loan and selling them…you would be in court PDQ.