Would you be a SAHM in my position?

[ShouldibeSAHM]

I am married and pregnant, living in the US.

We rent here and both work but have a home in the UK that he bought before we met, I’m not on the deeds and only contributed to bills when I lived there. I have decent savings but not a great pension (can’t contribute to UK pension much while I’m here anyway).

The Mat leave at my company is 12 weeks, majority unpaid. I really don’t think I will want to go back to work after 12 weeks (or less, unless I work right up until giving birth). I know it’s common place here and some people’s preference but I don’t want my child in nursery or with a nanny so young.

We can afford for me to be a SAHM but I worry about how it will look on my CV and my personal financial security and how hard it will be to get back into work. He has a lot of investments, savings etc from before we met. He always calls it our money, we have a joint account and I buy whatever I want within reason even though he earns a lot more.

What would you do in my position?

Yes!!! You are too funny TopGub. A MN one off!

@lazaro

You cant answer?

Why does me not valuing something that has no impact or benefit to my life annoy you?

Always asking for answers like a different with a bone .... but nobody answers because the questions are utterly meaningless and mind-numbing and nobody cares! It's just entertainment, TopGub. Nobody takes AIBU seriously...

Don't you have a job to get to or something?

*a dog with a bone!

Have a lovely day! Know your value everyone! Because you're worth it!

@lazaro

It is entertaining isn't it. Certainly entertaining how easily you're all wound up by it for no explainable reason.

No one answers because they can't because you know I'm right. You just don't want to admit it.

You dont need me to value your role to be worth it.

You do you hun!

"No one answers because they can't because you know I'm right. You just don't want to admit it."

Absolutely fantastic!!!

@lazaro

I know!!

@Topgub

you have a pathological obsession with the idea that your posts are annoying other posters

U ok hun?
it’s a bit… weird

Well, you obviously can't put a 12 week old baby in a full-time nursery OP and nor should any woman be expected to. Ridiculous!

My son was born in 20023 in London and he went to nursery at 12 weeks, and I had to go back to work. That's how it used to be. I didn't have a choice and in hindsight, it was the right thing to do for me and him. My career progressed very rapidly and we've been able to enjoy many privileges thanks to that. It is not the right thing for everyone, but it was ok for me and my DS

*2003, obviously!