To not want to go to a person’s 4th wedding

[Whingebagg]

Just that really. Being a guest can be expensive. All the travel too. Finding babysitters. IMO she needs to stop getting married. It’s not working for her. I want to politely decline but I know she’s going to take it badly.

Have you been to every wedding?

I’ve genuinely been married 4 times! I didn’t know there was so much bitchiness! I might to an AMA!

I can see the OP's point. I have no problem with people having as many relationships/ marriages as they wish, so long as they don't hurt others or get hurt unnecessarily. However, usually big lavish formal weddings, with an expectation that all your relatives and close friends should make a big effort to attend, are to mark the big special occasion that is expected to result in a lasting long-term relationship. That this might go wrong one time and lead to a divorce and second marriage is within the bounds of what we may expect. Three times? Well, one could just be very very unlucky. But it does imply the likelihood of the person not seeing marriage as a special long-term commitment. And no reason why they should- but then they should not expect the same commitment by others to their wedding as if it was a once-in-a-lifetime occasion.

If someone posted here that they were seeing someone but had some reservations because they’d been married 3 times they’d be told to run for the hills.

Yes if that was the question. But the question is about attending. Less of a commitment than marrying the bride.

I don’t blame you for not wanting to go. By the time it gets to the fourth time around, the whole marriage thing becomes pretty meaningless.

I’m expecting my sister to announce her third wedding soon, and I’ll just have to pretend I’m excited!

Four Marriages is a lot- from what you are hinting at, her choice of partners is less than Ideal.
Also, Divorce is very expensive- Nuts to marry a fourth time IMO.

MN HATES weddings at the best of times. You're supposed to marry in a bus stop wearing a groundsheet. There are always liars who insist that every person they know who spent more than £2.50 on their wedding got divorced within ten minutes but the groundsheet bus stoppers are all Twoo Wuv.

Four weddings, the mercury just explodes.

Don't bother going op. She sounds emotionally immature and it's wasting everyone's time and money going along with her nonsense. What self respecting man would want to be someone's fourth husband. It makes a mockery out of marriage.

No she's not. You're just feeling a bit sensitive as you've been a blushing bride four times yourself.

Ask her if there is an option to purchase an annual pass

For goodness sake, if you don’t want to go to a wedding, then don’t go - doesn’t matter if it’s the first or tenth.

Exactly. Save the judgement for that thread if you must.

If you hadn't said she I would think I was having the same dilemma. 😂😂😂

Shes managed to find 4 men to marry her. She must be really something. Are you sure you're not just jealous?

I don’t blame you, I’d be genuinely happy if she’s found what she’s looking for at last but it’s cheeky AF to expect people to do the whole huge expensive wedding thing/buy a gift x 4.

Unless your friend is Jennifer Lopez I wouldn't bother either.

Assuming she’s not family, ‘Oh, dear, there’s a big family do planned for that day - granny’s 90th, FiL’s 70th, someone’s golden wedding, etc.’

@ FourthMarriageForMe
Don't take it personally. My High society Grand Mother also married four times, all in the same 'high society' church, notices in the papers, the works.. 🙂
I can quite see the Dowton Abbey Dowager Countess making pithy remarks at the back.

Whatever she wants to do, I guess, but I wouldn't be going a fourth time, and probably wouldn't have attended the third either.

Weddings are too expensive to be going every couple of years for the same bride.

One of my friends has a brother who has been married four times. His brother is very disapproving but still is forced by his family to go, what they haven’t realised is he’s worn the same suit every time and recycle his best man’s speech just adding in recent children and qualifications.

Just say you have another 'save the date' invite from a friend, or that you are on holiday.

I beg to differ

I know someone who is on her 5th marriage, but only with 4 men! She married one of them (and divorced him) twice!

marriage number 5 was A secret job, they just sent a text after saying what they had done 😄

I didn't read anything about emotional blackmail 🤔