Just seen a guy I am seeing holding hands with another girl

[Topcat9876]

First time poster.
Long time lurker.
need a bit of a hand hold really.

I am 35 year old never married and childess woman

just as the subject says really
met a guy on Bumble in April - great dates and chat and was due to see him again this week. We slept together after a couple of months.

I just tested positive for covid and had to come to wfh early - I work in health care so in work 12 hour shifts until at least 7/8. He stays quite close to me. I drove home at 2pm. As I drove up my road To home I seen him and he was holding hands with a woman. He seen me (he knows my car) and he just had a blank expression on his face.

obviously I will never be meeting up with him again but AIBU to just block him or should I say something? What a waste of time. Feel stupid being upset and having a little cry.

I am at the stage of giving up humiliating myself by even trying to date. I always seem to be a second choice or a comedy shag for men.

I suppose contacting him might give you closure but if you don't have a need for that, then just block and ghost. He's a twat. Extra upsetting when you have covid.

Bugger the covid I would've approached them and asked what was going on!

This is one of the reasons I’ve given up dating, especially OLD. I was talking to a guy, I was away from my home city and due home in a couple of months. We talked about meeting etc. Spent the 2 months chatting online most days. I got home and shortly after Facebook bought WhatsApp and he suddenly turned up in my “people you might know list” (he’d told me he wasn’t on there!). Looked on his profile and he’d got married right in the middle of the 2 months he’d been speaking to me!

It was no loss to me, I hadn’t even met him, but I felt so bad for his brand new wife. I did message him. I said “you should be concentrating on your wife, she looks like a nice person, instead of chatting women up online”. Then I blocked him. I am so so tired of it all. At least you found out and haven’t been strung along further. So many assholes out there.

Just ghost the fucker. He's not worth a second more of your time, nor energy.

Sorry he let you down 💐

I would assume he is back on dating apps now finding your replacement..
Twat.

Is this guy good looking?

This is totally the right approach!

However I would've pulled up and had it put with the bastard!

So sorry that happened to you and it must have seemed surreal at the time. Thankfully you did see him and will not waste time on him or his excuses. I would text and tell him he is an absolute arsehole and block him everywhere. If that is a long term partner she deserves to know, feel sorry for her. He probably has another one in Amsterdam. It is not your fault at all as so many dickheads out there. I never did online dating as reading all the stories has scared me right off. If they are not asking for photos they are in a relationship already or dating loads. Easier meet someone doing a hobby you enjoy or something. Be kind to yourself.

Oh, OP. Better you find out now than further down the line. What a **

Yep. Very.
Someone commented once when we were out how good looking he was to me

I think you are right to be honest
He seemed very swift on getting my number, getting me off the app and out for a date
He probably does it fairly regularly - and then has his long term partner / wife he has been with for a longer time

F

I know - it was the weirdest coincedence - I am never in the city on Mondays; never in the afternoon at that time - not for years anyway. Always at work. So it was bizarre to me he was literally there - I couldnt have missed him. If I had left work one minute either side I would have missed it

The universe had my back today 😂

I think the 'is it exclusive thing' is nonsense. What's wrong with seeing just one person at a time, then moving on if it doesn't work. Why do people need to date several people at once? It's just an excuse for shit behaviour.

OP, you must be so fed up. He's the loser here. I'd dump him by text, just for the satisfaction, then block and move on

Well as a guy, I'm going to be objective and brutally honest..

This fella probably has practically every woman on these dating app(s) swiping right on him..

I'm pretty good looking.. maybe a 6.5/10 and i get next to nothing on Tinder/Bumble.. 7.5/10 and above guys get practically everything. the remaining bottom guys get next to nothing.

It works a bit different for men, because most of us have a sparsity mentally due to what i just said, we will swipe right on practically anyone and sort things out later.

move on, don’t waste time with shits. It just encourages them. I’m absolutely sure you can do better.
there are some decent guys out there

@SamCheshire

Does not matter if he is a 11/10 at the end of the day Sam 😂 he is still a wee creep who couldnt care less about me - would not waste his piss on me if I was on fire. He just wanted sex / ego boost

Some of my friends are married to 15/10's or whatever numerical value you can project onto humans. Their husbands do not use dating apps for casual flings

@Topcat9876
He’s a dick.
He’s probably not mentioned to that woman that he’s been having sex with you, either.
It is hurtful and humiliating, so much infidelity around.
Block and don’t look back.
😑

Any chance you could find her and let her know what a shit he is?
sorry you've been stung. 💐

Is there really any point? He is clearly a pathological liar
Honestly the way he looked straight through me today with no emotion would make you shudder - it was as if he didnt know me

How do these people have time to run two relationships?

I could let her know but its just creating more drama

I dont know but my colleague at work said a couple of his friends do it and have burner phones in their car to use dating apps - and have a full time girlfriend. So its not uncommon amongst online dating

What do you mean by stays quite close to you? That's a bit creepy

He doesnt like you much? And....how do you feel about him? Why do you call yourself a subordinate? Your self-talk breaks my heart.