Just seen a guy I am seeing holding hands with another girl

[Topcat9876]

First time poster.
Long time lurker.
need a bit of a hand hold really.

I am 35 year old never married and childess woman

just as the subject says really
met a guy on Bumble in April - great dates and chat and was due to see him again this week. We slept together after a couple of months.

I just tested positive for covid and had to come to wfh early - I work in health care so in work 12 hour shifts until at least 7/8. He stays quite close to me. I drove home at 2pm. As I drove up my road To home I seen him and he was holding hands with a woman. He seen me (he knows my car) and he just had a blank expression on his face.

obviously I will never be meeting up with him again but AIBU to just block him or should I say something? What a waste of time. Feel stupid being upset and having a little cry.

I am at the stage of giving up humiliating myself by even trying to date. I always seem to be a second choice or a comedy shag for men.

I agree @Felixsmama 100%!!

What am I reading? Holding hands is simple affection, with family, with friends, with previous as well as current partners. Some of you really seem to think that being in a relationship means you get to lock someone away in a cage! It's insane, and awful.

OP, you met this guy on a dating app 3 months ago. You barely know him. You and he have made no promises to each other. He's allowed normal human contact with other people!

Holding hands with previous partners?? What now!?

@Stravaig
My ex husband is visiting this week. I'll grab onto his hand whilst we're walking to get a coffee 😂

And according to another poster it's also fine if I kiss him, as there's totally, 100% nothing between us anymore 🤣

So sorry. Just move on. I don't think I'd even give him the satisfaction of blocking him.

Why do people keep asking if they were "exclusive"? If he presents himself to the OP as single then, yes he may be also dating other women, but thats not the same as being in a LTR and making the OP the OW without her knowledge or consent! I am guessing that his OLD profile didnt mention "Love theatre, walks in the woods and you being understanding when my wife wants me to stay in with her".

The man is a maggot and although I feel for the OP I agree that the Universe was her side today and I hope that it will soon be his wife/partners side so she can see what a piece of shit he is.

Oh and OP I would do nothing at the moment but if he does get in touch (manky shitheads usually do when they think that they are on to a safe easy shag) just send back "Your other half is easy to find on Social Media isnt she?!" and then block.

Let him shit himself in no small way!

The Universe is on your side cos you deserve better. The Universe is deciding whether to give him piles or gout.

Hopefully both....and knob rot.......and......self awareness one day too late.

aww I feel for you, I’ve totally been there, too many times 😩

With one guy it was going surprisingly well, we went on dates, slept together, were hurtling towards a relationship in my eyes when I was staying over at his and he went to the toilet during the night. I looked round and saw his phone ringing beside his bed. It was 3am 🤔 At first I thought ‘leave it, don’t be a psycho’ then thought, realistically no one other than another girl is going to be calling at this time so I glanced over at it. It was already unlocked because he’d been on it while we were lying in bed chatting (after we’d slept together) so I clicked the girls name and it opened up their messages. My heart sank the second I clicked on it, there was a text saying ‘in a taxi’ and the one before was her address, it was from the night before 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was then lying in his bed while he was in the bathroom knowing all of this and not knowing what to do. I literally just jumped up and had my clothes on by the time he was back in the room. Shouted abuse at him as I walked downstairs and left

Another time after a similar build up with another guy, again thinking ‘this is it’ I’m in a local bar and him and his friends came in. I waved over at first but kept on noticing how uneasy he looked and how overly close he was to a girl in the group. I was properly staring at them when she went to kiss him and he stared right at me then kissed her, still to this day I can see it 🙈

Long story short, men are dicks (not all of them). Chances are he wasn’t perfect anyway and you’ve just been lucky to have seen this now. I wouldn’t contact him but then I know I’d be waiting for him to contact me, and holding me back from moving on. I honestly don’t know where you can meet a genuine person nowadays

Long story short, men are dicks (not all of them). Chances are he wasn’t perfect anyway and you’ve just been lucky to have seen this now. I wouldn’t contact him but then I know I’d be waiting for him to contact me, and holding me back from moving on. I honestly don’t know where you can meet a genuine person nowadays

I disagree.

They are all dicks they just do what they are confident with getting away with.

After almost 50 years on this earth, I wouldn't trust a man now if he told me that the sky was blue.

Yup, pretty much rubbish. I think if OP goes about her daily business, o

Either he will call...in which case she handles it and sends him on this way, or he ghosts her. Either way, better to find out about him now and not when you are deep into the relationship. Imagine having kids with him and learning he has another family. Just focus on yourself, put the 2 of them out of mind.

Is it me misinterpreting something?
You said "a" guy I'm seeing, not "the" guy ... You don't sound much committed either.

It’s you.

Oh look, the guy in question is on the thread now.

I like this. Simple and to the point, no grovelling, gets the message across that he is a tw*t without actually telling him he is one.

So do I.

What area of healthcare demands 12 hour shifts that you can do from home?

It's you, being ridiculous.

Bin him off @Topcat9876 However, don’t let this experience be the reason that you feel you can’t find love. Just because you haven’t yet, it can still happen. There are loads of such lovely blokes out there. Maybe next time, take a chance on some blokes who you wouldn’t have considered your type?

Isn’t it just amazing that, on what is a pretty shit day for the op, there’s people who are petty and spiteful enough to ignore the issue in hand and pick apart her SPAG or inconsequential details of her post. Have a word with yourselves!

op I hope the covid doesn’t make you feel too bad and that you never hear from this arsehole again. Sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet there!

I'd be tempted to meet him anyway and make sure he got covid.

Yes, you have misinterpreted the context.