Husband thinks I was wrong for letting toddler do this

[kellyb85]

Ok so we went for a walk with 3 year ds today and we rushed out the door as in-laws were round (again at teatime!!!!!!)
anyway we had only been walking for 5 minutes when I noticed my little lad was holding himself. I asked him if he needs a wee and he said quite urgently yes I’m going to wee myself. He has only recently potty trained so although I’m trying to get him to hold it a little more, when he has to go he has to go! So I quickly get him to a drain and me and daughter make a little circle around him and let him wee in a drain. My husband was mortified by this! He couldn’t believe I let this happen right in the middle of the street, I explained that he was desperate and it was our fault and surely a quick wee in a drain then walking round with a massive wet patch on his pants
what would you do in this situation?
obviously usually he goes before we leave the house but as we are still new to potty training we, the parents also need training! Also this is something I wouldn’t normally do as I would try and find somewhere to hide but a I knew the area and knew there wasn’t anywhere close by the middle of a street was our only option. it is also a very quiet street

just curious as to what everyone thinks. My husband thought it made us look like ‘tramps’

I’ve never pissed outside, no. People on mumsnet seem to be constantly ‘caught short’ necessitating a piss in the corner of the post office but I’ve genuinely never relieved myself outside. I did have an unfortunate illness causing issues with toileting for a while which meant I had to consider very carefully how my day was planned out but if I was getting to the point that I had to pee myself/pee outside then I’d be seeking medical help.

And I wasn’t criticising op for not taking him - I was simply responding to another poster who snottily asked what sort of ‘perfect parent’ could prevent this. I was just saying it’s hardly unpreventable - he could have used the toilet beforehand. He didn’t, but it’s not like it’s some unheard of thing that only ‘perfect parents’ could work out.

Said it upthread but reading on definite country city difference.

I would say looking at my last few weeks general plans, there are no toilets, we don't stay inside. It's just life. Was actually tough when heavily pregnant, with a toddler, but sometimes nature called.

Kids go before they leave, but again when there, and to be honest I would rather hold the girls over a drain than use some of the unmanned country public toilets which are a health hazard in themselves

This isn't actually what I asked, I asked if you had never found yourself quite suddenly needed a wee where you hadn't beforehand. Most adults would be able to hold on until they did find a toilet in that situation because they have larger bladders and more control, a just turned 3 year old who's only just potty trained does not have that sort of control over their bladder. How is saying she prioritised her need to leave over his need for the toilet not critising the OP? She simply forgot to ask him beforehand because she was distracted, it's not like she juts didn't care.