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Cara671244 · 2022-07-10T08:48:05+00:00

So me and dh were invited to a wedding back in February... wedding is in October. I asked my parents months ago if they would have dd for the wedding. They said yes. It's the whole day and night. So we returned the rsvp saying we would be attending. Now my parents are after being invited to the evening part. They now want to go. My dd makes very strange with people and my parents are the only ones who have ever minded her. I think it's unfair they want to cancel now but also realise they aren't obliged to mind dd either so who is being unreasonable here

Fivefor · 12/07/2022 12:35

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Marvellousmadness · 12/07/2022 12:39

"My dd makes very strange with people and my parents are the only ones who have ever minded her."

And she will continue on being not liked looked after by others if you never let her op..

EmeraldShamrock1 · 12/07/2022 12:59

@Fivefor Calm down.

You're right you're not breaking the rules by using bad language though your attitude towards pp's is breaking the rules.

Thank me later hun. ❤️

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:07

beautyisthefaceisee · 11/07/2022 19:37

You're very aggressive. You can't call people cunts and say they 'fucked her over' (they didnt).

PS on the rtft , its 13 pages. people have lives.

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Then do something useful with them.

Reading the OP's posts is very easy. At least have the courtesy to do that

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:09

Bluelightbaby · 11/07/2022 20:08

I would either start get DD used to someone else that could do it, regular meet ups with said person until the date so she gets used to them OR you do the morning of wedding and parents do the evening.

i u set stand is disappointing but like you said they aren’t obliged to have her nor should be

Then they shouldn't have said they would

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:10

PJsprinkles · 11/07/2022 20:15

Could a friend stay at your home?

🤐

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:14

Harridance · 11/07/2022 21:41

Goldengirl, don't be so bloody rude just because I don't agree with you, money was not mentioned in ops first post

Then you could read more than one.

It's very easy

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:16

PancakesWithCheese · 12/07/2022 11:29

Proving bride and groom have said this is fine

They have. And it isn’t.

This thread is the equivalent of cancel the check!

I think it's one of the worst ones I've ever read for people not bothering to read anything!

Lazy people who are really desperate to get their say in whether or not it's remotely relevant

Nanny0gg · 12/07/2022 13:19

SleeplessInEngland · 12/07/2022 10:58

If it were last minute I'd understand the annoyance but you can surely come up with a new arrangement for three months' time?

OFFS

Nursemumma92 · 12/07/2022 13:24

MamaBearof4 · 12/07/2022 11:21

Lol, I know that. So the parents could easily not attend and let the grandparents enjoy the wedding too. Or were you insinuating that the grandparents should decline, even if they really want to go?

It's their daughter's childhood friend though... do they honestly think the bride and groom would rather her friend and DH were there or their parents?! The bride has already said she would never had invited them if she knew it meant her friend and DH would have to leave. Takes some brass neck to still want to go in those circumstances.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 12/07/2022 13:33

OFFS 🤪🤣

user1496146479 · 12/07/2022 13:38

eurochick · 10/07/2022 10:43

@Imthedamnfoolwhoshothim I think it's a fair question here as "after being invited" means "angling for an invitation" in British English and "invited" in Irish usage.

It just means that the parents were invited to the 'Afters' part of the wedding and not the full day.
Aka the party after the meal. Very common in Ireland & also at the last wedding I was at in London in April.

Helps keep the costs down

diddl · 12/07/2022 13:40

It just means that the parents were invited to the 'Afters' part of the wedding and not the full day.

JFC

user1496146479 · 12/07/2022 13:43

@diddl
????

MamaBearof4 · 12/07/2022 14:04

Grandparents aren't a service employed for childcare - it's done as a favour and generally when they have no other plans.
It's irrelevant as to whether they are super close to the bride and groom, they have been invited and intend to go. They aren't saying that they won't babysit for the day, just the evening. If the op wants to stay at the wedding reception, then they will need to secure another babysitting service, maybe a professional paid sitter. But like you have already said, it's an invitation and not a summons, they don't have to go.
If the op is pissy because she doesn't feel her parents should have been invited, then it's something she needs to take up with the people who invited them. It's their wedding, they get to choose who to invite.

Fivefor · 12/07/2022 14:11

user1496146479 · 12/07/2022 13:43

@diddl
????

She means you've posted complete and utter bollocks there, bonny lass.

Fivefor · 12/07/2022 14:12

MamaBearof4 · 12/07/2022 14:04

Grandparents aren't a service employed for childcare - it's done as a favour and generally when they have no other plans.
It's irrelevant as to whether they are super close to the bride and groom, they have been invited and intend to go. They aren't saying that they won't babysit for the day, just the evening. If the op wants to stay at the wedding reception, then they will need to secure another babysitting service, maybe a professional paid sitter. But like you have already said, it's an invitation and not a summons, they don't have to go.
If the op is pissy because she doesn't feel her parents should have been invited, then it's something she needs to take up with the people who invited them. It's their wedding, they get to choose who to invite.

She has. The bride regrets inviting them. You'd know that if you had the decency to at least read the OPs posts before replying with twee, irrelevant shite.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 12/07/2022 14:21

That's really shitty of them , that they're happy to sit there it the evening do while you have to go home even though they haven't seen the bride for years!

Harridance · 12/07/2022 15:08

Fivefor- what does 'she can fucking have one if she wants' mean?

goldengirlsoncraic · 12/07/2022 15:30

MamaBearof4 · 12/07/2022 14:04

Grandparents aren't a service employed for childcare - it's done as a favour and generally when they have no other plans.
It's irrelevant as to whether they are super close to the bride and groom, they have been invited and intend to go. They aren't saying that they won't babysit for the day, just the evening. If the op wants to stay at the wedding reception, then they will need to secure another babysitting service, maybe a professional paid sitter. But like you have already said, it's an invitation and not a summons, they don't have to go.
If the op is pissy because she doesn't feel her parents should have been invited, then it's something she needs to take up with the people who invited them. It's their wedding, they get to choose who to invite.

I can't be the only one banging my head off a wall

Harridance · 12/07/2022 16:32

I'm not

Nursemumma92 · 12/07/2022 16:50

goldengirlsoncraic · 12/07/2022 15:30

I can't be the only one banging my head off a wall

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Lol you're not...

Harridance · 12/07/2022 16:53

Let's say the babysitter gets £10 an hour, if they employ her for 3 hours, they need to save £10 a month for the next 3 months or ask their parents to pay it, a possible solution

Meraas · 12/07/2022 17:35

Harridance · 12/07/2022 16:53

Let's say the babysitter gets £10 an hour, if they employ her for 3 hours, they need to save £10 a month for the next 3 months or ask their parents to pay it, a possible solution

OP has found a solution to your 'advice' is irrelevant.

Harridance · 12/07/2022 18:43

Maybe in the future then