Tinder date, a hotel, and being stuck

[missbipolar]

So I rather stupidly agreed to go to a different city with a tinder date, he drove as I can't. We got a hotel and had some drinks and it was going OK, but then he started on shots and completely wasted we're now back and the hotel and he's fast asleep while I count down the hours till being able to get the first train. I'm a fucking idiot aren't I?

For it to take 48 hours to be safe to drive the average man would need to drink around 37 shots.

I got in last night just before midnight, I had drank four pints and three vodkas. I’ll be fine to drive by 10am.

My thoughts exactly!

OP - if he’s passed out and it’s just a case of sleeping it off and then an easier journey home just do that.

Do you want to leave to make a statement or something? I’d def keep to the plans but then just not see him again (you don’t need to tell him this though)

also not sure of the problem
apart from he had too many shots and you are bored?

Oh gosh my anxiety after seeing this thread and no update. Please keep us posted OP!

Just curious as to whether you slept together on the first date OP?

How the hell is that relevant?

As a pp has said, why on earth is it relevant whether they've slept together?

@pinkyredrose @feistyoneyouare because it may have given out the wrong message, the guy may have seen her as easy and the type of woman to agree to hotels and not have that many standards when it comes to dates and romance.

Yes you are. Be thankful you are still alive. Hope you are safe and have managed to get on a train.

Oh you poor thing OP I hope you are safely on your way home.

Please use this awful date as a learning experience.
IT IS NOT SAFE to jump into a car with a man you've only met once.
Certainly not safe to trap yourself in a hotel with him, with no means of getting yourself out & home.
You are lucky that all you have had to endure is a night with a drunken oaf.

Your username ... when you are on the high end of your behaviour/reactions cycle, do you feel that you are more risk-taking than usual? Because this date was just not sensible. You don't need to get scolded for it - plenty of women have behaved impulsively & regretted it - but you DO need to consider your own welfare, & treat yourself more kindly.

Please spend today being good to yourself, & feeling happy that you are home safe & sound. And remember that feeling of happy relief, next time you are tempted to have an adventure with a guy. You can still have a lot of fun, without compromising your own wellbeing & safety like this.

Lecture over!

I think it is relevant whether they slept together on the first date. All sorts of reasons why you might decide after a first shag that you don't want to spent the rest of the night together. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone for the first time in a single hotel room far from home.

Anyway, I suspect that the OP might have fallen asleep herself, because if she was off to MaccyDs for a 6am breakfast she'd probably have updated the thread just because she had something to do, so let's hope they didn't miss their checkout time.

No you wont, you will still be over the limit.

Why don't you do as him and just sleep it of then shag when he wakes up? At least you got a shag from this whole weird ordeal. Then leave in the morning, have the guy treat you for a coffee then have him drop you at the closest train station? He's lying there deep in sleep snoring after getting you drunk, doesn't sound very serial killery (or he's a very lousy one).

You're making the situation more weird and difficult than it already is OP.

@Honestopinion23 but even if he hadn't have got 'shitfaced' he'd have still been unable to drive her home if he'd have even just a couple of drinks, so really OP was always going to have trouble getting home once they'd had drinks.

Same, I have re read thread to see where the drama is but can't find it. Is this summary right.
Agreed to date in nearby Town.
Tinder guy drives as op doesn't.
Both drink, TG does shots.
Back to hotel to sleep in off?

Bloody hell, women get hurt or raped by men every day.
So why would you willingly get in a car, let alone a hotel room, with one?
That's not drama, it's fact.

Unless he has given you any indication that he is a threat.
Oh yeah, I totally forgot that men you have only met once all comply with the International Indicator System, & give you clear signals whether they are dangerous or not ...

Easy? Not have that many standards!? Wtf have i just read?! Would the guy be 'easy' too or just the woman?

Oh I don't know, after 20 years many women have their "escape plan/money" sorted just in case....

Sorry, I meant why would you willingly get in a car or hotel room with one who is practically a stranger?

I won’t, I would have been under the legal limit (including Scotlands limit) at about 9:00, I tend to wait a little longer as I’m a type 1 diabetic so drinking can make my diabetes a little more brittle.

Is there a reason going to a hotel with a date is any more risky than, say, going back to their house? In both instances the danger is putting yourself in a position where your alone with them in an unfamilar place. I'd almost be tempted to say going back to their place might be more risky - its their private property and not as public. As a PP metionaed, someone they knew was raped after setting foot in their date's porch.

yes i imagine a hotel is safer, away from their territory
but not all men are rapists.
but this one went ott on the shots

Didn't OP say he can't drive.
This thread is the most dramatic thing.

Oh no she can't, still this thread is ridiculous it's as though she's been held at gun point.

What is wrong with everyone assuming she is in danger, why?

Lol at no one on mn ever having one night stand🙄

I am giving it 2 hours before someone here starts calling on MN to trace OP and call police because... She is with "gasp" a man and he must be a murderer for sure