Tinder date, a hotel, and being stuck

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missbipolar · 10/07/2022 03:31

So I rather stupidly agreed to go to a different city with a tinder date, he drove as I can't. We got a hotel and had some drinks and it was going OK, but then he started on shots and completely wasted we're now back and the hotel and he's fast asleep while I count down the hours till being able to get the first train. I'm a fucking idiot aren't I?

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WeAreGoingOnASummerHoliday · 11/07/2022 12:55

ReeseWitherfork · 11/07/2022 09:51

It may be best, in light of OPs recent update, that this thread is laid to rest? I don’t say that lightly, it’s everyone’s right to continue as they please on a public forum, and who doesn’t love a good mumsnet bicker. I’m concerned that OP may come back and read it and I don’t want her to feel conflicted reading everyone’s opinions on what she should or shouldn’t have done. Equally don’t want the thread zapped in case she comes back for support.

I did suggest to MNHQ that they may intervene to protect OP, but it's a popular thread and they have lost users. This isn't ethical.

MerlinsButler · 11/07/2022 12:58

@missbipolar it sounds like you have good support from your flatmate and are now in the right place to get help. Hope everything works out for you. I'm sure if you do need more support then MNetters will be there for you but it may be worth starting a new thread as this one got somewhat derailed. Take care.

beautyisthefaceisee · 11/07/2022 16:09

Aprilx · 11/07/2022 05:55

i cannot believe what you have posted. It isn’t a binary choice between not leaving the house and going to a hotel on a second date with a stranger. There is quite a lot inbetween.

And I think quite a lot of women can say they have never put themselves in a high risk situation such as going to a hotel with a strange man. Which is what we are talking about here.

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I get that, I was replying to the poster who said about nipping I to someone doorway.

We are statistically more likely to be murdered in our house by our husband.

I know what you're saying, but my point is the holier than thou attitude wont help Op. I've put myself in risky situations ans I think most women have. If you havent, good for you, but that's not really help to Op

beautyisthefaceisee · 11/07/2022 16:11

WeAreGoingOnASummerHoliday · 11/07/2022 12:55

I did suggest to MNHQ that they may intervene to protect OP, but it's a popular thread and they have lost users. This isn't ethical.

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I dont think it needs to be taken down. Bipolar or not she does not need everyone making decisions for her. It's up to her I'd she wants it taken down.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 11/07/2022 16:16

missbipolar · 11/07/2022 12:23

I've been put on a 5:2 with a view of being put on a 2 just waiting for the 2nd dr which should happen today or tomorrow. This wasn't the only risky thing I've done in the last week (although probably the worst) I'm still somewhat fighting them, but when your manic I guess it's hard to see what's mania and what's not because you feel so amazing

Glad you are getting support op, like you say it can be difficult recognising the mania when you feel great but it does seem like you have a good understanding of that. Good luck

ExitChasedByABee · 11/07/2022 19:38

missbipolar · 11/07/2022 12:23

@missbipolar I’ve just seen the last couple of updates since I last saw your post around 5AM yesterday. I’m so glad you’re getting the help you need. I’m also glad that they’re helping realising how risky the situation was and I don’t think some posters were too helpful on that front. If you’d like MNHQ to delete this thread and start a new thread on the Mental Health talk topic, please do

ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus · 12/07/2022 01:01

I’m glad you’re in a safe place now, OP, and that you have good people like your flatmate to help you. Your flatmate is a star. Look after yourself. Best wishes xx

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