What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

That there are no happy endings. Only endings

When people die, its traumatic and awful, nothing like what you see in the movies. And grief isn't something you ever get over.

Not everything works out well in the end. And some people are truly horrible.

"Sooner or later the man you’re with will totally fuck you over."

Feel sorry for you

Maybe I am in AA too long. But I think a good way to live your life is 'to keep your side of the street clean' it's all you can do. Yes people can f#ck you over, but once you live your life by a good standard you cannot be hurt. I mean in your own mind. Sometimes you need boundaries, some times you need to cut people out.

That time just keeps going. Each day comes too quickly

@coffeeschmoffee I was coming on to say the opposite, that having seen many deaths, most are just slipping away or stopping breathing and not as terrible as I had imagined. That's the importance of drugs and good palliative care; that a good death can happen, but often it does not. I've told my kids to load up the morphine all the way...I'm sorry it was so much more traumatic for you.

That the only person you can truly rely on for your own happiness/peace of mind/contentment/support is yourself. You can't trust anyone else as there is always a hidden agenda.

That summer most definitely passes more quickly than winter.

The grass is greener where you water it.

That the general public only cares about child protection when there’s a tragedy or a scandal.

That you sometimes make your biggest mistakes with the people you love best and once they die there's no way back.

Unfortunately discovered this the hard way. Postnatal diagnosis of baby having lifelong and severe disabilities & health conditions, and people were basically like “aww that’s crap but you’re good parents, so…”
There are people I’m not sure I’ll ever forgive. Despite being there during their hour of need, and their issues being very minor in comparison.
A lot of people are ultimately very self-absorbed, thoughtless and selfish.

How adults will nearly always turn a blind eye to or find a way to excuse abuse of children because it’s too awkward, inconvenient or scary to confront other adults.

that my husband of 20 years is not at all who I thought he was, and that me and the DC aren't that important to him as he has walked away with nary a backward glance.

Cross post

Not many people see the beauty in the world.

That no-one really knows what they are doing, everything's a mess, the world is run on the hap hazard greed and control of stupid, selfish men with an agenda that does not in any way contribute to the health and happiness of the masses.

That everyone dies. I mean, I knew it but now I’m living through it and death can bring so many ugly issues up to the surface.

Spectacularly misses the point.

That marriage is highly overrated.

Grown ups, who should know better, don't always do the right thing and many will just turn a blind eye to bad situations to avoid conflict and confrontation.

some people are evil and some people are ill.

If you define evil as deliberately cruel, delighting in the pain and suffering of others, some people are evil.

The days are long but the years are short.

The older I get the fewer the men I actually like.

Like @ticktickticktickBOOM that most people are winging it 90% of the time - as a child, I always thought that adults had the answer and knew what to do in every situation, now I realise most of us are making it up on the fly. Though actually some of the dangerous ones are those who still think they have all the answers, or that their way is the only way.
I find it scary to keep having to make potentially life-changing decisions, and consider all the consequences & keep everyone happy

That the only person you can ever rely on is yourself.