What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

Ditto alcoholism, drug abuse, hoarding etc etc, we are constantly having lifestyle choices elevated to 'illnesses' which the NHS has to treat, one of its biggest problems and drain on resources.

Tbf I suspect a lot of these behaviours are not nuero typical and unfortunately there wasn't any awareness of the high functioning groups in the past therefore the help wasn't available.

My DD only 13 still very much under my care.

She has the potential to be a hoarder along with being a hermit, she's diagnosed but it doesn't make it any easier, she lets crap build around here and has zero organisational skills, she comes across as extremely lazy but she is not with it.

To look at her at a glance, she's perfect.

Life isn't fair.

I am in my fifties. Unless you had a learning disability, or your autism was at a level where you had no or very little speech, then you were left to get on with it. We had children in my class that looking back I am sure had autism. Others had traumas but no help e.g. girl whose mum died suddenly in a car accident and was just expected to get on with it.
It is easy to sneer at these adults and not understand there are reasons people behave in disordered ways.

EmeraldShamrock1

agree
undiagnosed neurodiversity is at the root of so many issues
it’s staggering really

People who might be your friends still want to be more than that

Sadly, I've also come to realise that kindness is often perceived as weakness. I've often given people the benefit of the doubt when I shouldn't have, they show themselves as CFs and try to treat you like a doormat because they think they'll get away with it. This has made me less kind now.

How are you can really love someone and they might not love you back.

Feel exactly the same than you.

That life really isn't fair. Bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. Life can be very unkind but I think recognising this makes you appreciate the good times more rather than take them for granted.