What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

That not everyone is as honest as me

And, indeed, any substantiated prediction before the election.

"Brexit will be good for this country" is a political viewpoint. "Good " means different things to different people. It's a value judgement and cannot really be verified. If someone has a very different idea of "good" than I do, then it makes sense for them to describe Brexit as "a good thing".

"Brexit will mean an extra £300 million a week to the NHS." Is not a viewpoint. Neither is "We never voted to join the EU" or "We have no say over who's in the European Parliament".

These statements can be proven true or false and they were repeatedly shown to be false. And people ignored this and then whined afterwards that no one had told them.

The success of these lies isn't a product of anti-elitist, salt of the earth political viewpoints. It's a product of widespread ignorance.

*That should say referendum to remain in the EU, not join it.

But you didn’t like them and you regarded them as the “least pleasant”. The vast majority of people did like them.

Is that sad?

So many good points in the thread, I'm nodding reading them.
I find the roller coaster of highs and lows exhausting.
Thankfully I still believe the good outweighs the bad.

we Have no idea what reality is, why we even exist, yet around us is an act going on with everyone pretending or believing they know what they are doing.

we act like we live forever - and then say we want to leave a legacy, but nothing is forever - the universe itself is dying as we speak.

so much of our time is wasted despite our amazing progress, appreciation is lacking for most of us

No matter how kind you are, good you are, talented, hard working, morally sound, intelligent, do the right thing, blah blah blah, you can do everything right and sometimes things don't 'just work out fine' and things might not 'be okay in the end'.

The only person you can rely on is yourself. Everyone lets you down eventually.

People rarely regret what they did do - they regret what they didn't do.

Risenrad
Those girls were probably pretty or charismatic so people naturally gravitated to them, either that or they were scared of being the next target.

My school bullies were always one step ahead and more socially astute than I ever was. They knew the latest songs, dressed fashionably, were advanced and in the know about what mattered as teens. I acted and dressed my age, looked and acted awkward, felt out of my depth in large groups/around loud people.

Totally agree. This is the real thing, not a rehearsal, going along with things is a mistake, not wanting to upset others by not making an unpopular decision is wrong. At 70+ I speak from bitter experience.

Always have a back up plan.

Married? What's the back up plan?

Want kids? What's the back up plan?

Like your job? What's the back up plan?

Life is very unpredictable and we have to be agile and make changes fast.

in your time of deepest despair and greatest need don't expect people to stop their lives and save you-they can't.

People rarely regret what they did do - they regret what they didn't do

most,if not all, of my regrets are the things I've done.

In your time of greatest need and despair you can not stop your life either. There are still meals to be cooked, housework to be done, and earnings to be made, even if you just want to spend every day in bed. You still have to carry on. And if you can't your life would totally sink - kids taken into care, lose the house, etc. So if you can, however hard it is, you just carry on.

That I was never going to have great bone structure (aged around 13).

Yes and having to explain this to well meaning people who have this idealised version of the world which is not reality.

I wish there was a like button on here!

I regret many things that I have done.

I am a carer for a disabled adult. I get fed up of people on here who give advice on all the support available. I agree for children and adults there is very little support at all. Generally you have to do it all yourself plus navigate all the bureaucracy for the small but of financial help and support you do get.

I regret many things that I have done.

God yes, me too!

I frequently wonder what the fuck I was thinking.

Believe you me, you do not want that!
That would mean never getting to a relationship.
Speaking from experience.
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I am the plainest Jane ever, the quiet little mouse that walked around the playground on her own at lunch that always looked young and never pretty and I’m married 15 years with 4 kids and my dh is my soul mate- we’ve had a lot of laughs along the way. I don’t know how old you are or your history but huge hugs, I believe personality is key to everything and people can find love randomly anywhere at any age (or at least good friends if not X)Xxxxx

That there is no God. I was told a pack of lies as a child but now I know that this is all there is and everything is pointless. How depressing!

Not pointless- liberating!
Christianity tells us that we are in the departure lounge- waiting for the main event.
Atheism makes us aware that this life really counts.