What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

That there is no God. I was told a pack of lies as a child but now I know that this is all there is and everything is pointless. How depressing

we don't know though and I'm not religious but to discard it all as wrong so factually is bonkers because we don't know.

It's been a bit of an eye opener seeing how many men hate women

I'd say it's the other way around with mn.

That I will never hear my parents voices again or be able to hug them one last time . Life is too short hold love ones near family is all that matters

I think I've realised through Mumsnet that an alarming majority of the things people say can offend someone somewhere - regardless of your intentions. Even harmless small talk

i've also seen on mn and in real life that people love a pile on against 1 person and all loyalty and reason will go as long as people aren't being the one targeted.People feel empowered by it-to see another person get ganged up on.

That the general public only cares about child protection when there’s a tragedy or a scandal

that applies to everything though and not just child protection; the general public generally don't care be it mental health , poverty,disease etc.

Just how powerful voice tone and the ability to spin a yarn is ,when coupled with someone who doesn't search for truth.

People you considered perfectly pleasant can be absolutely horrible.

That an awful lot of women are suspectible to a con man if he's convincing, well spoken and seems comfortably off (not me I might add) !!

For me I remember the moment I realised that women will generally have much easier, nicer lives if men find them attractive

it works both ways, being physically attractive allows you a nicer life regardless of gender. Ofcourse it's more important for women but men have other standards to meet also to be found attractive-high earning, masculine etc...

The only person you can ever really trust is yourself

for many people they can't even trust themselves.

*ans I can tell you that my three closest friends of some thirty years “have my back”

my two brothers and my sister “have my back*

The sad fact is though is that we never truly know who has our back though at the end of the day. Many of us have being betrayed by those who thought had our backs. At the end of the day people will put themselves 1st over you.

A lot of people just can’t understand how anyone can think differently from themselves. If you think differently you are stupid or mislead and there can be no other explanations in their mind

this and many can't admit fault or back down in confrontation about their behavior but rather deny it or blame the other person accusing for lying etc.

There are no real bolts from the blue, there are always clues beforehand, small details you missed and didn’t think much about it at the time

this isn't true, car accidents, plane crashes, bombs etc are bolts from the blue often.

Are you just going through posts to tell posters they're wrong?

Mums don't last for ever 😞

Pain is part of life and if you do not accept that you will be unhappy.
The longer you live the more pain you suffer.

That no matter how much you love your husband and would do anything for him, he will still cheat on you and steal from you.

Illness can hit anyone at any time. It is not just the old that die of cancer.

Sometimes life is not fair, you see others less deserving, get a promotion because of personal relationships not merit.

After the menopause you feel exhausted a lot and wish you had not taken your health for granted.

Enjoy life whilst you can.

I am sorry for your experiences- not all men will cheat and steal though.

And re the menopause- again sorry that you feel that way- but it isn;t universal.
I feel amazing, far more energy than before the menopause- I am really enjoying this chapter in my life- no small children to look after, no messy menstruation,and plenty time to exercise- I do 5 exercise classes a week, I don't think I have ever been this fit.

There is a balance to be found between loyalty and honesty.

Karma has bit some people i know on the arse. Was treated terribly as a teacher at a private school. Said private school was in news about 2 years later as they taught the wrong gcse syllabus...in my old department!

That my 100% school attendance award means nothing.

Plus an ex who had abused me phoned me up 5 years later moaning to me about how his wife had dumped him and he was devastated and how sorry he was that he had been so controlling. I did mention that karma had bitten him and i was not interested any more...very satisfying!

Are you just going through posts to tell posters they're wrong

i'm not telling her she's wrong, I'm simply developing her point. I as an unattractive woman know exactly how shit life can be but I'm just adding that this fate is not just for women, many unattractive men get the short end of the stick too. Society is generally vain.

A lot of people choose to see the negative rather than the positives of life.