What’s the sad reality about life that you had to learn?

[YouAreNotBatman]

To me it was how little people actually care about other’s.

And how lonely and isolating life can be, even as an adult, if you just don’t ”fit in” with the norm.

Lovely post anonymouse, agree!

That sisterhood is a myth and women are often absolutely vile to other women.

That sisterhood is a myth and women are often absolutely vile to other women

same goes for brotherhood although I think gender is irrelevant here, people are generally vile to other people and we are all capable and guilty of it.

That being after 21 years is what I’d hoped, despite doing lots, most seem to find someone quickly

Absolutley this - learnt the hard way and find it really sad - they still appreciate what I have done for them but im still an after thought.

Can I ask when people say

"Most people are selfish"
"People only serve their own interests" etc

Do you include yourself in that?

You honestly ever thought that 50% of the world’s would get on and support one another simply because they were the same gender?

Life is random in many ways. There's no rhyme or reason why we are born at a certain time and in a certain place. Statistically we are more likely to have been born in China, India, the USA, Africa or Russia rather than on a tiny island like the UK.
Interesting thread but a bit depressing.

What on earth are you on about?!

YOU would only have been born by your mother and your father conceiving you.

and if they weren’t Chinese, Indian, American, African etc but rather.. English, it was “statistically” pretty likely you’d be born in…. England! 😂

That 27-32 is when most people hit peak adulting, after that some people are better than pretending than others.

Eating the right foods, being slim and fit will not insure you against absolutely all ill health. You are less likely to succumb to some illnesses but genes will out, so if it isn't normal for you, get it checked out.

What a great post, I agree with this.

I mean, it's random that my mother and father conceived me. The tiniest tilt in someone's life - I e. my mother marrying a different person, might have resulted in me not being born at all, or being born in a different place.
All of us make random decisions - where to live, (do we end up with awful neighbours) have children or not, (do we end up with grandchildren) who we marry, (what is his personality, his job, is he rich or poor, what opportunities does he have or reject) that affect the path of our lives.
I'm sorry you couldn't understand what I was saying.

I was naive when I was a younger woman and did think that women would support each other generally, unfortunately it's not true. That's why I put it.

That if you are born poor, you will probably die poor no matter how hard you try. Working hard doesn't get you anywhere alone. Shit people do well in life because they are better connected and start life at an advantage.

Most people aren't good at critical thinking.

As a woman whatever I choose do with my life will be wrong to too many people. Even though it has no effect on them what so ever. They will still have a very vocal opinion about it

The thread has taking a depressing view.

It's awful so many people have no one to rely on.

I'm grateful or foolish to believe that the people in my life, siblings would be there to support me and likewise I'd be there to support them too.I

I don't believe everyone is out for themselves on a normal day, yes if it was armageddon I'd understand that everyone would fight for their own survival in general people carry out kind acts because they can and it brings joy to others.

The tiniest tilt in someone's life - I e. my mother marrying a different person, might have resulted in me not being born at all, or being born in a different place.

Or if your Dad ejaculating on the sheet.

The chances of us being here at all only depends on 1 sperm meeting the egg, your 1000's of potential siblings died on the way the same night.

*Ejaculated.
I'm tired. 😴

Men are valued more in society. By other men and women.

1. People are largely selfish and narrow minded
2. hardly anyone actually cares about you no matter how good you are to them.

I completely disagree

but that is by the by

Point of this post is that i find there is a very definitely an undercurrent of superiority to posts like this ie everyone else is shit but I’m not.

I disagree too- I think most people have kind hearts.Expecting others to care about you because you have "been good" to them misses the point.
It isn't about reciprocation- that smacks of " After all the things I have done for you...." type attitude which is not wholesome.
If someone feels they are in repeated situations where they are bing taken advantage of, then it is times to assess their boundaries.
And also to take a look at their own internal system, their self esteem.
Sometimes people will treat us badly because we don't treat ourselves very well.
Raise the bar, don't compromise and treat yourself with deep compassion.
Others will follow your lead.

Some people can't laugh. As in don't actually have any type of sense of humour. Boggles my mind.

Someone close to you? Otherwise how would you know?

Or perhaps just haven’t found anything funny when you’re around

the lack of insight of some on this thread is striking!