Sisters funeral

[Naughtybutnice76]

My sister sadly took her own life and the funeral is next week. Her son's wishes are that we as a family (mum, dad, sister, son) travel in the car and sit together at the funeral. My mum and dad are separated. My Dad wants his partner on the front row with us, the same woman he had an affair with while my parents were married. Is it unreasonable to ask that she doesn't sit with us? We all get along, that isn't the issue. It just feels like this should be a time where family wishes come first. AIBU?

You can't expect someone who had an affair (that's the other woman AND the married man) to have any consideration for other peoples feelings, after doing such a scummy thing as having an affair. This woman (affair partner) absolutely should NOT be with the 'blood' relatives though. If the dad insisted she were there, after the funeral I would never speak to him again - (or her obviously!)

I agree. The OW shouldn't even be there at all, let alone her own kids!

As for whose preferences take higher order in this case, then it should be the son's. The father has already shown that he didn't give a damn about his daughter(s) when he chose to break up their home by taking up with the tramp OW, so his wishes shouldn't even come into it at this time.

Personally I would get your dad to sit in the second row with his wife and her DC. You stated yourself he has moved on and prioritises them. You need to prioritise your sisters son, and you and your mum can support him in the front row