To have not found this woman hilarious?

[AllHailKingLouis]

Went to visit my mum - there were a few family members there (aunts) and a family friend who I don’t know well.

Im rather socially awkward (ASD/ADHD) so find it hard to join in conversations but I do try otherwise people say I’m being standoffish.

My mum suddenly said “KingLouis, you like horses don't you? Well Lisa (family friend) has two!”. Everyone looks at me for a response so I say “oh yes, I love horses - I am a bit nervous about them though”.

Lisa says “Nervous??? Why??”

I say “well, they’re big … and unpredictable”

Lisa “no more unpredictable than your average human love”.

everyone starts laughing. I’m feeling awkward now and just reply “yeah, that’s true I suppose”.

my mum says “you used to go horse riding didn’t you KingLouis?”

me: “I went a few times when I was younger”

Lisa: “why did you stop? Too much hard work?”

Everyone laughs.

Me: “No, I became frightened of injury if I were to fall off”

Lisa “Don’t get on the bastard then!”

everyone falls into hysterics and start saying stuff like “oh! Good old Lisa! Tells it like it is! She’s so funny!”

I made my excuses and left. Nothing hilarious about a rude obnoxious person who sets out to make someone uncomfortable.

my mum later called me asking why I’d “gone off in a mood” about Lisa “having a laugh”. I said I wasn’t in a mood, just didn’t find her attitude necessary. My mum said “oh that’s just Lisa! You’ll have to get used to her I’m afraid! She won’t mollycoddle you! Haha”

well no, I don’t need to get used to her, and I don’t want mollycoddling. I’ll just choose not to spend my time around family when she’s around! Everyone involved thinks I’m being a baby about it.

AIBU?

Another thing about quick come backs

there's no place anyone should have to think of those. Realistically, yes, it happens at work. But when you are among friends, things should be fun.

if not, leaving is the right answer.

some people enjoy fights and meanness, I leave them to it.

I don't have ASD but I would have been pissed off at that interaction. Perhaps Lisa should think before she speaks!!

Shes not funny. Horses arent for everyone. Dont give it anymore of your headspace love. X

Tell Lisa to fuck off on the horse she rode in on (pun intended).

It's surprising the amount of NT people who have family who are ignorant of their differences.

Lisa sounds like an odious twat. I wouldn't worry about it.

I think the op needs to grasp that being a “brilliant mum” is a heck of a lot more than doing lifts in the evening.

It is about looking at your romantic relationship and thinking whether or not it is in the best interest of your children and then making the sacrifice of ending it desire how you personally feel

Wrong thread

Lisa is not funny. She sounds like a knobber.

Nothing she said was amusing.

Do you have to mix with the people ever again?

Tells it like it = massive arsehole

You did bugger all wrong OP, it's not you that's the obnoxious dick in this scenario.

Lisa sounds like the sort of woman I avoid like the plague. Everything I don’t like about a person, coarse, loud, unfunny, commands the room with her ahem, ‘big’ personality and worse of all, ‘tells it like it is’ 😬 I really cannot emphasise fully quite how much I loathe people like Lisa.

Lisa sounds like hell. I would've been offended too. Your mum should have left it alone after the first remark, I can understand why you left.

“Don’t get on the bastard then!”

I mean it's not even funny is it because er Op doesn't!

"I'm surrounded by idiots" comes to mind here.

You aren’t wrong about horses being unpredictable to be nervous of accidents. I put my injury pictures up in Sporners’ Corner, half my calf was ripped off by a horse, 3 months off work and now I have a permanent limp from where she rotated my knee cap as she launched off my leg having knocked me over.

Lisa is an arsehole and I’m horrified that your mum was basically throwing you to the wolves there, really nasty of her. Was she trying to pander to Lisa?

'Well then don't get on the bastard!'...

'Exactly....'

Then later..

'Lisa, what IS it like to be able to be so rude and forthright and everyone just falls about laughing at you - I imagine it's hard to get across a serious point... assuming you ever have one.'

You are nbu I am asd and often get 'bullied' by family members , they are fucking dicks ignore

However, not everyone is as well educated and sympathetic as you. The world is composed of many different people. Not everyone behaves exactly perfectly at all times. It can be very frustrating for other people, other than you and the OP, to have such a negative conversation. I'm sure you are aware of this?

ODFOD. If someone doesn't laugh at a joke made at their expense, you don't double down and continue. Nothing to do with education, just human decency.

Does Lisa say all this through a grotesque ventriloquist's dummy? Otherwise I'm struggling to see how what she said could have been perceived as funny by anyone's standards

This was most definitely not YOUR social skills lacking in this scenario, Lisa is a twat

YANBU. I've got Asperger's, this type of interaction upsets me too. I have a large family, but choose not to have contact with most of them because they think it's funny to make jokes at my expense. They know I find social situations difficult, but always tease me or make me feel uncomfortable. I know they are doing it deliberately, they have done it since childhood. I've done my best over the years, but now I think life is too short to put myself through this, and I choose not to see the dickheads. I'm happier for it, and they can F off if they don't like it.

Tell them where to go...politely 🤭
People who like to make others uncomfortable to generate laughs, are individuals who have issues and think that the company they're in, will think they're the dog's bo*cks for being so funny.
IMO I would have left too and you were right to think she's a loser and totally rude

Very well put.

YANBU not to find her comments hilarious

YABU to describe her as rude and obnoxious when her comments appear to have been seen by everyone else as normal banter, albeit rather unsophisticated banter

Sounds like one of those “tell it like it is” arseholes you come across from time to time, they’re bloody tedious.

Surprisingly they’re less keen on telling it like it is when someone tells them to fuck off.

I really dislike people that use 'brutal honesty' or 'telling it like it is' as an excuse to be a fucking asshole.

There is no excuse for that kind of rudeness and I bet your family won't be laughing when they're the butt's of her hilarity.

Not unreasonable at all. That sounds awful. It is a form of bullying - everyone ganging up on one person and laughing at them. I would agree and avoid her like the plague. Sorry you had to deal with that.