To have not found this woman hilarious?

[AllHailKingLouis]

Went to visit my mum - there were a few family members there (aunts) and a family friend who I don’t know well.

Im rather socially awkward (ASD/ADHD) so find it hard to join in conversations but I do try otherwise people say I’m being standoffish.

My mum suddenly said “KingLouis, you like horses don't you? Well Lisa (family friend) has two!”. Everyone looks at me for a response so I say “oh yes, I love horses - I am a bit nervous about them though”.

Lisa says “Nervous??? Why??”

I say “well, they’re big … and unpredictable”

Lisa “no more unpredictable than your average human love”.

everyone starts laughing. I’m feeling awkward now and just reply “yeah, that’s true I suppose”.

my mum says “you used to go horse riding didn’t you KingLouis?”

me: “I went a few times when I was younger”

Lisa: “why did you stop? Too much hard work?”

Everyone laughs.

Me: “No, I became frightened of injury if I were to fall off”

Lisa “Don’t get on the bastard then!”

everyone falls into hysterics and start saying stuff like “oh! Good old Lisa! Tells it like it is! She’s so funny!”

I made my excuses and left. Nothing hilarious about a rude obnoxious person who sets out to make someone uncomfortable.

my mum later called me asking why I’d “gone off in a mood” about Lisa “having a laugh”. I said I wasn’t in a mood, just didn’t find her attitude necessary. My mum said “oh that’s just Lisa! You’ll have to get used to her I’m afraid! She won’t mollycoddle you! Haha”

well no, I don’t need to get used to her, and I don’t want mollycoddling. I’ll just choose not to spend my time around family when she’s around! Everyone involved thinks I’m being a baby about it.

AIBU?

Do people often have 'jokes' at your expense, OP? If so, I know what that feels like.
The people around you don't sound very empathetic but, as they're family, will probably be difficult to subtly avoid.
You could say you're bored of being the butt of the jokes but no doubt will be labelled a kill-joy. But their behaviour is kind of bullying to be honest. You don't deserve it and you shouldn't have to put up with it.
Does it only happen when Lisa is around? If so, maybe avoid situations where she's there. No-one should force you to spend time with awful people, life's too short.

Lisa sounds a right bitch. You shouldn’t have to tolerate people like her and people justify it by saying she’s telling it like it is allows her to get away with her awful behaviour. Next time if you think there’s anyone in the house other than your mum I would stay away. I bet Lisa wouldn’t have liked to be on the receiving end of this behaviour. Maybe your mum can’t handle her so she goes with it but honestly they were all out of line. Am so sorry you were made to feel uncomfortable as that’s not right. Avoid this so called friend as she sounds toxic. Sad but most of us have a friend or colleague just like her not that we want to.

Lisa's a twat, but she's being fed and encouraged by the others, especially your mother who kept feeding the exchange which is ignorant at best and cruel if it's to entertain yourself at her expense.

I'll admit to not understanding this dynamic as no one comes out well. Why aren't the Lisas put in their place? Why do people hang around in their shadow? The Lisas only have social power because their hangers on give it to them, and they are as bad for encouraging it.

I'm not anti-banter as long as it's a mutal exchange between people who respect and understand the other's boundaries. OP's mum knows that's not OP's style so she's just set her daughter up to be mocked then sulked about the consequences. It's not OP's social and communication skills that have failed here, and OP has handled it well.

she reminds me of a posh obnoxious toff! Stereotypical comedy sketch lady in a tweed fitted jacket, immaculately quaffed hair, dry horty voice, snorts when they laugh and slaps everyone on the back hard enough to dislodge an artery. Using degrading bullying as humour. She's a twat. I would have left too.

it reminds me of that sketch from Miranda - with her mum and that obnoxious toff she set Miranda up with.

Slightly less well-known, but I'm picturing Lisa as the gobby mate Denise brought with her to some social function or other in The Royle Family, the one that kept putting Cheryl down, if anyone remembers that.😅Unfortunately I've met too many of her ilk!

Lisa and your mum are both Grade A knobs. Why was your mum pushing you forward to become Lisa's target? That is really unkind.

I think she is rude and getting a laugh at your expense is not "clever" or straight talking, it is just unkind, in fact downright nasty!

However I am almost more concerned that your family members including your Mum, all seemed to be having a laugh at your expense too. Is it because they don't want to "upset" Lisa (scared of her tongue?) or is it because they are used to having a laugh at your expense? Presumably they know that you are autistic so why on earth would they find her treatment of you funny?

I know exactly the kind of person this Lisa woman is and wouldn't want to be in her company for any longer than necessary either.

I don’t think leaving was dramatic at all, unless of course you flounced out shouting “I’m not taking this!” 😂
People like that aren’t funny and the only reason others laugh is because, as a pp said, they don’t want to become the target.
ignore them all saying you’re being a baby, you’re an adult and you can choose which situations you do and don’t want to be in.

Agreed, throw in possible alcohol being drunk, and laughing to be polite humouring the idiot who thinks she's funny.

Next time they're laughing like this, just use the phrase "sorry I don't understand why this is funny?" and keep a dead straight face about it until they stop laughing and it becomes a bit awkward because they then have to explain. If you still don't understand why it's funny (which you won't, because it's not funny and it's actually rude) then repeat yourself and say "I don't find that funny"

In this instance with the horses comments, reiterate why you don't find it funny e.g.... "You asked me why I don't ride horses, so I explained myself, and you said don't get on the bastard, which I've already explained that I don't ride them now... Why is that funny?"

I doubt they'd be able to explain because it would mean they need to admit they were making a joke of you which then shows they were rude.

I can't stand when people get away with being rude because "it's just what they're like" and everyone accepts it instead of challenging them. It's only funny when it's not them at the butt of the joke.