To have not found this woman hilarious?

[AllHailKingLouis]

Went to visit my mum - there were a few family members there (aunts) and a family friend who I don’t know well.

Im rather socially awkward (ASD/ADHD) so find it hard to join in conversations but I do try otherwise people say I’m being standoffish.

My mum suddenly said “KingLouis, you like horses don't you? Well Lisa (family friend) has two!”. Everyone looks at me for a response so I say “oh yes, I love horses - I am a bit nervous about them though”.

Lisa says “Nervous??? Why??”

I say “well, they’re big … and unpredictable”

Lisa “no more unpredictable than your average human love”.

everyone starts laughing. I’m feeling awkward now and just reply “yeah, that’s true I suppose”.

my mum says “you used to go horse riding didn’t you KingLouis?”

me: “I went a few times when I was younger”

Lisa: “why did you stop? Too much hard work?”

Everyone laughs.

Me: “No, I became frightened of injury if I were to fall off”

Lisa “Don’t get on the bastard then!”

everyone falls into hysterics and start saying stuff like “oh! Good old Lisa! Tells it like it is! She’s so funny!”

I made my excuses and left. Nothing hilarious about a rude obnoxious person who sets out to make someone uncomfortable.

my mum later called me asking why I’d “gone off in a mood” about Lisa “having a laugh”. I said I wasn’t in a mood, just didn’t find her attitude necessary. My mum said “oh that’s just Lisa! You’ll have to get used to her I’m afraid! She won’t mollycoddle you! Haha”

well no, I don’t need to get used to her, and I don’t want mollycoddling. I’ll just choose not to spend my time around family when she’s around! Everyone involved thinks I’m being a baby about it.

AIBU?

It sounds like an unfortunate combination of three people with shaky social skills. You DM was making an inept attempt to integrate you into the group, Lisa was attempting to be funny (with zero success), everyone laughed because the group felt awkward and needed to bond, and then you made a graceless exit. So I wouldn't worry about it because nobody present at the time was in any position to point the finger at you!

These tell it like it is people are so bloody tedious...

Yes youre all so funny.. As you tell it how it is... 🙄

Think its her with no idea of good social interaction..

This

I don't think OP made a graceless exist, she did not run out in tears or shouting, she simply said goodbye and left.

Not as easy as it sounds for many people.

Lisa sounds very annoying but may have her own issues with social skills. As possibly does your mum, for failing to read the room and noticing that not everyone thought her friend Lisa was hilarious.

One thing in your favour is that you know who you are and what you like. Another person with lower self esteem might have tried to laugh along even when they knew they were being mocked. Just going politely but firmly quiet until the spotlight is removed from you is fine. Some people will find you precious or hard work for doing that but it brings you peace and you’re not hurting anyone.

She sounds irritating and you sound incredibly over dramatic. It sounds like a ridiculous situation all round.

Have you never been in a conversation with someone that you don’t particularly gel with before? I can’t imagine just walking out of a room because I found someone irritating, I’d have lost my job more times than I could count if I did that.

OP did not just walk out of the room, she said goodbye to everyone including the idiot woman.

so basically you said 'I dont ride horse because I dont want to fall off' and she replied 'well dont get on one then' which is exactly what you just said phrased different... not remotely funny, makes her sound a bit thick actually.

YANBU. Lisa sounds about as "hilarious as diarrhea in a broken down lift.
Your family were very arseholey , too laughing a long at your expense.
Why can't people just accept that some people would rather be left quiet. Not everyone can or even wants to walk into a room like a Court Jester on speed.

I'm probably a bit thick but I don't really get the exchange. It's not even remotely funny or entertaining but I'm also missing the "tells it like it is" part and I'm but really sure what part is particularly rude.

I cannot bear these gobshite type of people. They need to be the loudest, most outspoken and borderline obnoxious as they can be because ‘I’m just saying what people are thinking’ and ‘they just tell it like it is’. They’re bloody lucky the rest of us don’t tell it like it is then, aren’t they.

They are akin to bullies and most people only laugh at their ‘jokes’ to avoid being the butt of the next rude comment.

Yanbu OP. Ignore and move on.

Yeah, does sound as though they'd been drinking.

OP I feel for you. As a neurotypical kind of person I'd probably have joined in - and then felt a little bit soiled and ashamed afterwards. Good for you for taking no more of their shit. I doubt if you are the only person who finds Lisa a tiresome pain in the arse, somehow.

oh! Good old Lisa! Tells it like it is! She’s so funny!”. That’s shorthand for Lisa is fucking rude and has no filter.

@AllHailKingLouis
''Lisa'' sounds crass and rude, and these so called ''Blunt'' people have zero social skills at all, and are often bullies to their animals, too in my experience.

YANBU

I used to work with a ‘Lisa’ - someone who tells it like it is and isn’t afraid to have their own opinion and banter and the whole world is too sensitive.

My entire department found her hilarious and warned me before meeting her how funny she is and if you piss her off she’ll let you know because she ‘tells it like it is’ - no in fact she’s just plain rude and actually pretty racist, homophobic and misogynistic. She just enjoys the attention of being so outspoken and non PC.

I wonder if my ex colleagues do find her funny or actually because she’s so outspoken they’re worried they’ll be targeted by her if they act offended so they laugh alongside her.

Common as muck, as my mum would say.

Oh God I cannot stand people like that. Our family has one too, the last time we made a collective decision to just walk off and leave the conversation as she got into her stride.... The look on her face was far more amusing than whatever drivel she was coming out with. 🙄

Lisa sounds like a bit of a melon.

Just want to add I didn’t just stand up and make a dramatic exit! 😂 I just said I’d best be off as I need to take the dogs out. I smiled and said goodbye to everyone (even gobshite)

In that case, you were not being dramatic imo.

@ChangedMyNamrButStillMe This is a pretty offensive/ignorant thing to write to an OP who has already stated that she is neurodiverse and has ASD.

Lisa is brash, insensitive and attention seeking. Whereas you sound like a thoughtful, sensitive person. I'd much rather have a friend like you than her.

Lisa sounds like a twat, and your mum doesn't come off great here either!

I absolutely detest these 'I'm hilarious me, LOOK HOW FUNNY I AM RAH HA HA HA' kind of idiots who are totally incapable of reading a room or judging their audience

I completely agree.

why people sit by and laugh at this is beyond me. No one asked to be the target of a comedy skit.

what I’m about to say isn’t funny either but …if you have spare baking, you are most welcome at mine!

I don't know, it's really annoying when your own mother joins in. It's odd that people feel the need to humour annoying relatives. I don't - but then mine aren't annoying anyway - or at least I don't spend enough time with them for them to become annoying, it's generally weddings and funerals and everyone tends to be on their best behaviour.

OP, it's not you, it's her. What is it with these tiresome morons with crappy social skills who don't see 'telling it how it is' for what it really actually is: being a rude, obnoxious, attention seeking arsehole. This attitude usually goes hand in hand with low intelligence. People fawn over them because they know that if they get on the wrong side of them they will become the target. It's a bit like bullying - how some children follow the lead of a bully because then they are less likely to be a target themselves. I have no time for idiots like that and I'm glad you don't either.