8 year old up till 4.30 am is unreasonable?

[keepsane]

Just picked up my 8 year old DD from a sleepover at her friend from schools house and it turns out she and her friend were up until 4.30 am. The mum came into the room and said it was time to calm down and go to sleep...at 4.30 am!!

I'm really unhappy, in what world is letting 8 year old girls stay awake till that time unaccompanied may I add as the mum was in her bed, okay? 12 am - fair enough, maybe 1 am at a push if excited but 4.30 am is ridiculous and my DD is knackered.

I don't know whether to text the mum. She certainly won't be back there for a sleepover. AIBU?

You are being so unreasonable.

I'm surprised the mom didn't mention it when you picked DD up to be fair, but I have no idea why you would complain.

YABU!!
This is totally normal!!
Years ago when my DS had sleepovers, the first ones to go to sleep, were waking up just as the final ones were going off to sleep!!
We thought it was hilarious & gave them cooked breakfasts as & when they surfaced!
Sleepovers were only allowed in the holidays though!!

I stopped letting my DD go to sleepovers as she wasn't sleeping and would spend the next day almost hung over from exhaustion. There seemed to be a trend of a whole bunch of girls sleeping over at someone's house and lots of dramas and tears with some girls falling out and some feeling homesick. Too few positives and too many negatives. So she didn't miss out, I'd pick her up in the evening at 9pm or 10pm or whenever was convenient for the hosts.

Sleepovers are meant to be challenging to stay up all night. It is all part of the fun!

The correct response is "oh gosh, I'm so sorry they played you up like that, I did tell him to behave and try to sleep. Thanks so much for having him."

unaccompanied may I add as the mum was in her bed, okay?

Where else would the mum be?

I couldn’t help but smile at the “I wouldn’t have allowed it” 😁😁😁

As If, you can send them to bed every hour and, if they are having a good time, the only thing they would do is to keep playing but lowering their voices. 😁😁😁

It is not as if you are going to ruin their bedtime routine forever, don’t allow your DD more than a half an hour nap today and send her to bed at the usual time. Simples!

This. Children were excited and bonding. As an occasional thing is fine.
Should add that I'm guilty of all nighters as an adult. Especially on holiday.
Which is it probably is to the children.
Just be glad that they enjoyed themselves!

I found sleepovers unbelievably exciting at that age (and older). We used to save up any treats we'd been given that day (sweets/chocolate) and hide them under our pillows to have a midnight feast (think I read too much Enid Blyton 😂). Anyway, the point is those nights have stayed in my memory all that time - am now in my 40s. Your daughter may remember last night for the rest of her life.

letting 8 year old girls stay awake till that time, unaccompanied may I add as the mum was in her bed
Unaccompanied??? What was the mum supposed to do, stay in the room with them the whole time?
While I do agree 4.30 is very late, I think you're being completely unreasonable to even consider texting the mum.

Sleepover is a misnomer - they don't sleep as its exciting! They're best kept to friday nights (so 2 days to recover before school) or school holidays! 😂

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that.

That’s a good compromise @ilovesushi.

It's just after 5am where I am. I got up early with the dog. My middle has 4 friends camping out in the yard. They've just come in for a warm drink & so far no one has slept. What they have had is lots of fun. They'll be grumpy by mid-afternoon. Nothing an early night won't fix. If one of the parents text me to complain I'd think twice before the next invite.

Lmao. Poor kid. Punished for being a kid

Grounded?? For what?

😳 grounded for being a kid? You need to lighten up, seriously. You sound horrible

Where did you expect the mum to be if not in bed?

You've grounded her for being excited, having fun, and doing something most kids do at sleepovers? That's so bloody miserable.

What is the reason for the grounding?

Yup this happened to us at same age, DD then a month of insomnia. 🥴😆

Jeez you sound like a right dick. Just let your child chill and nap today. I don't understand the problem!