To ask what makes someone seem ‘classy’?

[Classynotme]

Not rich but the calm, serene and classy vibe that some people just give off?

To me it’s about being slow, polite and considered if that makes sense, never rushed. Plus looking well put together.

I’m always rushing and speaking too fast and seem harassed but I’d LOVE classier!

No tattoos.

Good accessories
Nice smell
Not swearing
Polite to everyone
Thoughtful with interesting things to say

Someone who doesn’t overshare very personal information or opinions on anything controversial

People who say less rather than more if you know what l mean.

@SylviasMotherSaid i also overshare 😆

totally agree though

my mum frequently gets told she looks classy.

in fact, one of the mums on the school run was saying to me at the start of the week how she thinks my mum looks classy (she picks my kids up)

my mum is small, dainty, has a great haircut (short Bob and hair is very thick) and has that lovely salt and pepper hair that’s not dyed. She also wears clothes that suit her and fit her petite frame well. My mum always laughs about it because she doesn’t see it herself.

Agree with this. Plus an ability to make other people feel comfortable in your presence, even if they're doing things that would make your toes curl.

Just thinking of the people I know that I’d say were classy, I’d say they are all…

Calm/unflappable
wear understated clothes where nothing is too bright/loud/loud/short/big/tight/high/patterned-they just look well put-together.
No obviously tattoos/piercings/cosmetic surgery.
slim
well spoken

Obviously this is just anecdotal and about the people I know. Not all slim people are classy and not all classy people are slim!

I think it's the way you speak, clean hair and good teeth. Also moderation in all things

Well groomed, unhurried, a slight sense of entitlement. Slightly removed from the hassle of most peoples lives (which helps with the unhurried, calm vibe).
My cousin is classy. She's very well educated, very well dressed, has a certain amount of money (she works too), is always impeccably groomed. She hosts a lot of lunches and dinners that always look lovely, plus she also has time to volunteer etc (no kids but is now mid 60s anyway).

Being attractive or at least 'handsome' helps as nobody pictures a spotty overweight person when they think of 'classy'. Obv you can be attractive and not classy, but people often thought of as classy are generally not too bad looking, unless we're talking about slightly older people where it would probs be more the manners and dress.

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@Classynotme me too I’m the least classy person around ! I had an old work colleague though who I always thought was very classy and she was always a bit mysterious but very nice

I like to think I'm quite classy, i have nice hair, dress quite well, very educated but i guess the small tattoo ob my arm andy nose piercing has condemned me to ignominy

How boring would that be. If "not having opinions on anything controversial" is the definition of classy I must be trash.

Not using the word "classy". I've no idea why, but true.

Otherwise, as above. I used to be classy apparently, but the older I get, the less unconscious effort I put in to how I'm perceived.

I had no idea how much day to day energy I was exerting, being put-together, managing my natural oversharing instincts etc etc.

I don't think I realised how"trained" I was, growing up. What to wear, how to wear it, what people want to hear, how to behave, how to speak, it's only when I started raising my own children, who have various diversities, that I realised how much of it was NONSENSE.

I appreciate I'm lucky I can still put on the facade, but really, so exhausting.

Not rising to the bait. We were at a restaurant getting shocking service and the manager delivered what I considered an passive aggressive arsehole comment to me and I responded in kind. The whole place was a disaster that night. Dh asked so politely for our mains to be rushed out, he acknowledged they were busy, he praised the great efforts they were making despite clearly being challenged, he raised his concerns about the kids getting close to their limit all really nicely that gave the manager a way out to be the better person and the hero. I was in awe. And she responded in kind. And he thanked her. It was very classy, he got it 100% from his mother- the classiest person I know. I was so impressed. DMIL takes the high road every single time, whilst also being assertive and polite. It's a skill. Meanwhile I act like I was dragged up.

These threads pop up all the time and are so depressing.

What makes someone classy, I think, is not giving a toss about whether someone else thinks they’re classy. Or being obsessed by appearances and the like… just my two cents.

It really depends on the person, I see it as a calculated thing, like every choice looks like it is there for a reason. Unhurried but not in a chilled relaxed, 'going with the flow' way, more like the world is just running to their schedule.

Like nothing is chucked on or thrown together and they appear like they have never had a nature valley bar disintegrate at the bottom of their bag.

The definitions on here make me think utterly boring not classy. What's classy about not having any opinions?? Sounds more like a Stepford wife to me

Yep, the word classy is déclassé, as my granny would have said (déclassé, not classy, and TBF she would have been joking).

Also clean, tidy and so boring, so its not necessarilly something I think of as aspirational.

Not using the word "classy". I've no idea why, but true

This with bells on.

The word "classy" is very much like the word "common". If you have cause to use it, you don't really know what it means.

Plus, aspiring to be bland, inoffensive lacking in opinions, blending in, not making a ripple on the surface of life. Honestly anyone can do that but why? Would you want your kids to grow up making no impact on anyone?

I think it's treating everybody as if they are personally important to you. Not gossiping about people or showing off. Making people feel comfortable and not out of their depth in awkward situations. Being able to keep a secrets

Menthol cigarettes, pouring Tennents Super into a glass instead of drinking it straight from the can, a collection of those creepy faceless ornaments you get from Argos and Katie Price.