To ask what makes someone seem ‘classy’?

[Classynotme]

Not rich but the calm, serene and classy vibe that some people just give off?

To me it’s about being slow, polite and considered if that makes sense, never rushed. Plus looking well put together.

I’m always rushing and speaking too fast and seem harassed but I’d LOVE classier!

Reading all this I must be the most unclassy person ever.
I speak too fast with thick east European accent so nobody understands, wear all colourful clothes all together, lots of jewellery. Oh well.

The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Classy is their favourite word. As long as you don't do anything they do, or emulate them in any way at all, you'll be OK.

This. Also, has no personality, no opinion and blends into the background. Knows her place. How sexist

Amen to this!

Posture and manners. Understanding that good manners are about making all kinds of people feel comfortable, not judging them because they don't know your rules

I see classy as a behaviour, not an image.

I work with a man I've just described as a class act. He's unfailing polite, funny and warm. He's great at his job and negotiates conflict so well. He rises above corporate politics.

I dunno, I think I just prefer nice, easy going, down to earth people than all these so called identifiers of "classiness". Maybe that's because I'm not classy at all! Genuine working class folk who you can just have a chat to!

Gracious, doesn’t get into arguments, ignores confrontation.

Doesn’t try to attract attention with bright, garish clothes, wears expensive brands but no flashy labels. No short skirts, cleavage only for evening events. Mostly plain solid colours. Well fitting. Appropriate to occasion eg raincoat and umbrella if it’s wet.

Not sunburnt. No vest tops. No tattoos. No piercings apart from one set of ear studs.

Minimal make up and jewellery. No costume jewellery. Hair can be messy but it’s generally clean and groomed, no accessories, styled so it holds the style without lots of clips. If wearing hair up, invisible hair grips eg hidden within a low bun.

Speaking nicely. Not saying things like "I'm sat..." when it should be "I'm sitting." Intelligent conversation.

Go you. Fuck this blend into the background nonsense for a game of soldiers. I know what I prefer.

Classy bird, me.

To read this thread, you’d think most people were describing “how to be beige”.

There are just a few essentials. Firstly, when introduced to someone, say "How do you do" and NEVER say "Nice to meet you". Always grasp a doorknob from underneath rather than putting your hand over the top of it. And finally, remember that the word "yes" is pronouned with an "h" at the beginning.
Remember those points and you will be just fine.

Good manners and being respectful to others.

People on here calling themselves classy is the cringiest thing ever

My dad once visited me at work. A colleague, who didn't realise who he was, came to tell me "there's a respectable gentleman here to see you". I think she just meant he was reasonably clean and tidy and had been polite and friendly to her.

I think that just about sums it up.

I know its excruciating the number of people on here who say they have "often been told they are classy" with wide-eyed faux innocennce.

"Lots of people (most of whom were trying to get into my knickers) have told me I'm boring, self-effacing and don't have any opinions."

Have a medal.

I’m fairly heavily tattooed, so there’s no point in trying to be classy, it seems

Great posture and great manners I think separate classy people from the rest.

Yes!

Gracious, doesn’t get into arguments, ignores confrontation.

could have saved yourself the time and just typed ‘doormat’.

the person you described probably uses ‘be kind’ as their mantra.

I agree with this - diplomacy always wins (and is very classy!).

Losing your temper or rising to the bait always makes people look vulnerable IMO.

Being calm and business like in a confrontational and difficult situation.

The amount of ppl who resort to swearing they just let themselves down.

Good manners, good posture, good social/soft skills, good dress sense.

Good dress sense and nice hair and makeup with a good eye for accessories. The clothes can be from Tesco, it's how you wear it, not the cost.