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Husband going to Glastonbury when I’m 35 weeks pregnant

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:02

My husband has been offered a chance to go to Glastonbury this weekend. He wouldn’t normally be able to go due to the nature of his work, but he’s got the weekend off.

Am I being unreasonable saying he shouldn’t go as I’m 35 weeks pregnant with my first child?

I’ve got gestational diabetes, had issues with reduced movements and discussing with my midwife if I’ll be induced at 38 weeks. So it’s not the easiest pregnant but I am aware I could still have 3 weeks before anything kicks off.

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Br1ll1ant · 22/06/2022 20:04

How far away is it? And would he stay sober so he can get home quickly?

Cas112 · 22/06/2022 20:06

I'm currently 29 weeks with GD and wouldn't have an issue with my partner going if I was 35 weeks as long as he has a plan to get home safely and quickly if needs be

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 22/06/2022 20:06

I think he should go. You’re 3 weeks away.

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:06

@Br1ll1ant its a 3 hour drive away (if traffic isn’t bad) and he would be drinking.

I'm also aware signal can be pretty patchy, so worried I couldn’t get hold of him if things did kick off.

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Happyplace88 · 22/06/2022 20:06

Honestly, yes YABU. Unless you’re very high risk for preterm labour, you’re very unlikely to have any issues in the weekend he’s away. I would have no problem with him going.

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:07

@ThroughThickAndThin01 this is what my reasonable side of my brain is telling me, but had two people at work go into natural labour at 35 and 36 weeks, so it’s made me wary.

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FriendlyPineapple · 22/06/2022 20:07

I wouldn't have an issue with it. Enjoy one last weekend of peace!

I also had GD with both pregnancies and was induced at 39 weeks+ both times.

Even if you were to be induced over the next few days, it's not massively likely anything would happen quickly so he'd have fair warning.

My first induction - I was told to go home and come back with my bags 3 hours later. Pessary was inserted about 3 hours after I was admitted. Then a solid 49 hours before a baby appeared...

LubaLuca · 22/06/2022 20:08

I think YABU. He's going to be back before you're induced.

notgreatthanks · 22/06/2022 20:08

Is it far? Is he typically a heavy drinker? I wouldn't have an issue but it depends on the situation.

orwellwasright · 22/06/2022 20:09

Check out the other glasto thread, OP. What you really need to be doing is going yourself and squeezing out your kid during a Paul McCartney performance after a few Jagerbombs.

Dancingwithhyenas · 22/06/2022 20:09

YANBU- drinking and not making it an essential priority to be contactable would be a major issue for me at 35weeks.

TryThisItHelps · 22/06/2022 20:09

YANBU. He shouldn’t go. You might need him, suddenly, and he’ll be three hours plus away and pissed (so unable to hop in a car and drive).

I know it’s also very likely you won’t need him but I wouldn’t expect him to take that chance.

Eeiliethya · 22/06/2022 20:10

Ah I'd be pushing him out the door!

Just think, you can have a final few days peace (you won't get another chance for about 7 years).

You can eat whatever you want, nap, watch shite on TV.

God I'm jealous just thinking about it 😂

6demandingchildren · 22/06/2022 20:10

I would probably tell him to go, but I would also say that if you did go into labour you will only phone him once and if he misses it then that was the choice he took, then plan for someone to be worth you while he is away.

Happyplace88 · 22/06/2022 20:10

@Firsttimetrier youll always here of people going into preterm labour, but the majority of first time mums won’t deliver their baby before 40 weeks. Try not to worry.

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:13

3 hours if the traffic is on his side and he would be drinking.

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:15

I’m more than happy for him to go every year after, but feel more cautious this year.

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dianthus101 · 22/06/2022 20:15

DH went a few events when I was nearly due but definitely didn't drink. I think he should stay sober and if the mobile reception is patchy he needs to phone you every now and to check you're not in labour.

Aquamarine1029 · 22/06/2022 20:16

I would definitely let him go.

Sux2buthen · 22/06/2022 20:17

I wouldn't question it, the baby isn't due and he wants to go.

WitchesCauldron · 22/06/2022 20:18

Let him go, you've got years of nappies and sleepless nights ahead. Might be the last chance he gets.

FriendlyPineapple · 22/06/2022 20:18

6demandingchildren · 22/06/2022 20:10

I would probably tell him to go, but I would also say that if you did go into labour you will only phone him once and if he misses it then that was the choice he took, then plan for someone to be worth you while he is away.

Yeah, so realistic.

You go into labour and you only phone the father of your child once.

Yodaisawally · 22/06/2022 20:21

I'd be twitchy about it but mine have all been prem.

Pissed up in the middle of a field at Glasto, crap network and a three hour drive...is he driving there? Even if he stayed sober he won't be able to get out of the parking depending on where he is.

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:22

This is that I think, however both were first time mums 😂.

My mum’s labour with me (first child) was 1 hour from start to finish and I was nearly born in the car as she got stuck in traffic.

So I feel like I’ve heard so many early, quick labour stories of FTM!

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Firsttimetrier · 22/06/2022 20:23

I’m more than happy for him to go every year after as I’ve got a hen do and a wedding away next year, so more than understanding a weekend away would be appreciated once you have a kid.

Maybe we just need a plan in place if anything does happen.

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