Husband going to Glastonbury when I’m 35 weeks pregnant

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My husband has been offered a chance to go to Glastonbury this weekend. He wouldn’t normally be able to go due to the nature of his work, but he’s got the weekend off.

Am I being unreasonable saying he shouldn’t go as I’m 35 weeks pregnant with my first child?

I’ve got gestational diabetes, had issues with reduced movements and discussing with my midwife if I’ll be induced at 38 weeks. So it’s not the easiest pregnant but I am aware I could still have 3 weeks before anything kicks off.

Yeah, to be fair I went abroad at 35 weeks pregnant with my first maybe a bit more laissez-faire than average 😂 does he need to go today or can he wait until after the midwife appointment if it's only tomorrow?

You won't though, because after this year sleep deprivation will make you want to LTB! You'll never want him to go out again. Been there, got the T-shirt.

@SandyWedges I’ve ignored these comments since before the GD diagnosis, the episodes of reduced movements and talks of induction 😂. Everyone loves to continue reminding me of this though.

@Isonthecase so he would need to go tomorrow, but I can see if he can wait until after my midwife appointment.

It’s perfectly natural to feel anxious. Can you get a friend or family member to stay over? Or maybe arrange some stuff todo during the day - go swimming, yoga class, get your hair done - if you can bare the smell of the salon! Keeping busy will stop you noticing his absence and you may well be relived to have a bed all to yourself in this heat. Also arrange an emergency buddy - someone you can call in the middle of the night if you have a problem? Having arrangements in place can offer some comfort.

My experience of Glasto is good signal.

He might not just be able to go next year (as someone who hasn't been able to the last few years myself!)

I'd personally let him go given that 35 weeks is still fairly unlikely. I would make it a condition of his going that he doesn't drink so he could get back to you quick though

@5zeds since May, he’s been aboard for a stag do and a wedding which I told him to extend and stay out for an extra week to enjoy with friends.

I've been pretty relaxed and not really cared the whole pregnancy. It’s only since the GD and reduced movement episodes that I’ve been a bit more anxious and think maybe we need to be more cautious at this stage.

Maybe I am being a bit too precautious, but it does seem like a divide.

Of course he should go, what a bizarre question.

Does he need to go to all your midwife appointments??

I'd be happy for mine to go. But I think you've made up your mind OP, so you should really be talking to him, not us.

I get why you’d be pissed off OP

why should be get to live it up at glasto?!

whilst you feel hot and uncomfortable and can’t drink etc

its shite being a woman

@Nellle he doesn’t come to any midwife appointments, except for the scans, because of his jobs means he can’t take time off.

I will be speaking about this with him, but I had no idea if I was being unreasonable due to anxiety or if I’m being reasonable because things can happen at 35 weeks, albeit rarely.

I am properly laughing at the idea that you’ll be happy for him to go any year after 😂

Same 😁

Yep! 😂

Why can't he go but agree to not drink so he can drive back if needed. That sounds a fair compromise.

Things could kick off early, but it is highly unlikely.

My DH has plans (which I have wholeheartedly encouraged to give me some quiet time) to visit family for a long weekend overseas when I am in week 34.

Everyone has their own risk analysis. Mine is a high risk pregnancy (consultant doesn’t want me to go past 39 weeks) but I am happy for DH to travel until week 37 (might change to 36 closer to the time).

My DH wouldn’t have done this. Sorry, OP.

I hope all goes well for you with your last few weeks of pregnancy and labour!

I'm 34 weeks with my first and my boyfriend is there now. We are in the north west so about 4 hours away. I've no issue with him going and not really thought about it to be honest. He has another festival in a couple of weeks. He won't go to any when I get to around 37 weeks

Forgot to add - I'm actually grateful for the peace and getting the fan to myself at night I am still in work so I am busy this week and have made some lovely plans with friends this weekend - he's back Sunday!

@Rainallnight you don’t personally know me
or my relationship, so that’s fair to think that. However, the reason I don’t mind is that I genuinely think it’s important for parents to do things on their own and away from the family time to time. For example, I’m going aboard for a hen do next year for a week, no issues there if he had a stag. It’s just this year that I’m more concerned about.

Given an earlier thread, I'm surprised at this supposed last minute offer. I wonder if the last minute bit is the confirmation of time off.

Agree about the time doing own things providing it is not a one-way street.

The phrases “let him go” or “wouldn’t let him go” that always pop up on these sorts of threads are interesting - I mean, he’s an autonomous adult. You can discuss the pros and cons with him, express your opinions/concerns - but in the end, he chooses to do what he wants to do, surely? And equally, how you feel about his choice and respond to it is up to you. But this idea that we have the power to let or not let people go somewhere is strange.

Yup, I always find it disturbing.

Why?

Honestly I would let him go, he won't want to leave the next few months and it'll be good for him