Husband going to Glastonbury when I’m 35 weeks pregnant

[Firsttimetrier]

My husband has been offered a chance to go to Glastonbury this weekend. He wouldn’t normally be able to go due to the nature of his work, but he’s got the weekend off.

Am I being unreasonable saying he shouldn’t go as I’m 35 weeks pregnant with my first child?

I’ve got gestational diabetes, had issues with reduced movements and discussing with my midwife if I’ll be induced at 38 weeks. So it’s not the easiest pregnant but I am aware I could still have 3 weeks before anything kicks off.

Just tell him you’d rather he didn’t drink , it’s not obligatory to do so .

My DH used to go and in all honesty at 35 weeks pregnant no I wouldn’t be happy. He would never have signal or his battery would always die. Not a problem usually but when your pregnant I can see the anxiety it could cause!

My SIL DH missed his seconds sons birth because he went to a concert 2 hours away and was drinking so couldn’t get there in time. I wouldn’t be pleased haha.

I have babies quickly. Including the first who was fastest. I couldn’t get in touch with my DH when I went into labour, he wasn’t contactable due to not having a charged mobile on him. He was sober but it didn’t matter because he was on public transport anyway and that doesn’t go any faster regardless of your situation.

Even after all that, id be fine with him going to Glastonbury.

YANBU I wouldn’t like this.

I had a very very low risk pregnancy and still went into labour very unexpectedly at 35 weeks.

Obviously lots of people will say ‘but plenty of people don’t go into labour early’ but the question is what if you DO.

Let him decide if he wants to go or not.

It's really not your decision to make. And if your baby isn't born this weekend you'll just have a sulky man skulking about.

I am with you OP.

I would feel uneasy, as I know first hand how patchy signal is there!

Is he a grown up or a teenager?

I wouldn't be impressed if my DH said he was off to Glastonbury and I'm not even pregnant.

if you did go into labour you will only phone him once and if he misses it then that was the choice he took

Imagine having the energy to be that passive-aggressive when you're in labour.

YANBU - even if you are not about to imminently go into labour, at 35 weeks you can still be knackered, aching, unable to lace up your shoes and needing a bit of support.

I'm all for letting my DH have his own down-time, but I'd have bloody killed him if he's gone to Glasto 3 weeks before my due date.

Why @Léighméleabhair?

I think he’s being a selfish jerk actually. You’re the one carrying the child and you’ll be the one going through childbirth. You really don’t want to do that alone if you don’t have to - and you don’t deserve to have that worry right now. The timing is not good on this. And I fear if he’s comfortable to fuck off now, when you might really need him, he’ll potentially be more likely to be an absent dad who thinks he’s entitled to continue acting like his pre-kids self: lots of nights out, hangovers where you have to do all childcare, time consuming hobbies etc.

No baby needs to be subjected to Macca on the day they are born!

He'd better get his skates on op - gates opened this morning- if he's not careful he'll just be sitting in a car in a queue! !

Lol.

You can go swimming, but make sure you don't get wet. You can go to the restaurant but you're not allowed to eat. You can watch your favourite programme but only blindfolded with the sound down etc. etc.

Mumsnet is absolutely demented about alcohol.

Being a teenager has nothing to do with Glastonbury. Bet you’re fun at parties x

*Ah I'd be pushing him out the door!

Just think, you can have a final few days peace (you won't get another chance for about 7 years).

You can eat whatever you want, nap, watch shite on TV.

God I'm jealous just thinking about it 😂*

this :)

peace. Cereal for tea, or takeaway, or toast. Bed to yourself.

i’d be asking him to make sure his phone is on, take battery pack, and probably get me the number for the festival where I can get someone to call out over the PA system if necessary 😂. Although I’m sure a quick call to glastonbury police they would get that done for you.

i went into labour unexpectedly at 36 weeks. My mum had gone in holiday as “all the babies in our family are two weeks late” so she thought she’d be back in plenty of time 😂

mind you I was not overly bothered about dh being there. Although he was actually more use than I anticipated.

stupid post.

Honestly? I would let him go and have a backup plan for who you could call if you needed help in the event of labour/emergency.

Statistically it’s far more likely you would go overdue than deliver early if left to labour spontaneously.

Enjoy the peace, quiet, naps, takeaways and junk TV!

You can go swimming, but make sure you don't get wet. You can go to the restaurant but you're not allowed to eat. You can watch your favourite programme but only blindfolded with the sound down etc. etc

lol because that’s exactly the same as not drinking at a festival.

it’s not mn “being weird about alcohol”, it’s a perfectly reasonable suggestion that if a man wants to be there when his baby is born he might want to make sure he’s in a fit state to drive the three hours home if she does unexpectedly go into labour early.

I think he should go but compromise on staying sober and carrying several power packs for the phone (and an old Nokia if you've got one).

Oh for goodness sake. If you were 39 weeks I'd understand.
So for the next, up to 7 weeks your partner cannot have a life?
Do you actually know how hard it is to get tickets to Glastonbury? He won't get many chances like this

I read that missing out on Paul McCartney in your formative years contributes to a whole range of poorer outcomes in later life such as low academic achievement, lower earnings over a lifetime and even a higher likelihood of going to prison.

Seriously, you go ask 100 people banged up in pokey and I'll bet none of them saw Macca perform live when they were 16 weeks old.

Mine did the Great North Run when I was 38 weeks (around a 6 hour drive and he camped in a field with no signal).

I enjoyed the peace, to be honest.

I wouldn't mind if he went. It's 35 weeks.

Nah enjoy peace and quiet. My DH went when it was 99 degrees and rang me when I was moving daughter out of uni halls. He wished he hadn't haha. Plenty of time for him to stay home when baby comes. X