While I was at work today I asked my dad if he would be able to come round and trim the ivy/weeds that are growing in our back garden.
He said he would.
I went to work, my dad messages me and tells me he’s done it.
I got home and went into the garden to check out the work.
My next door neighbour came out and told me in no uncertain terms that my dad had cut ivy from their side of the fence as well and he’d pulled it out by the roots.
She said she’d spent 20 years growing it in the way she wanted it to be.
Her husband said she’s been crying all afternoon.
I said I was so sorry and it wasn’t my intention, it was my fault for not communicating what I wanted correctly to my dad. I just wanted the weeds pulled out and the ivy trimmed back as it was starting to grow up through the paving slabs.
Anyway, they were very upset and on the war path.
I went out and bought her some flowers to say sorry and she nearly didn’t accept them, then did, even though she said she was still so upset she couldn’t talk about it.
I hate confrontation and I feel really uneasy tonight now. I’m not sure what to do for the best.
AIBU?
Or is my neighbour?
Barbiepink · 22/06/2022 19:16
Am I being unreasonable?
1053 votes. Final results.
POLLBarbiepink · 23/06/2022 07:55
This morning they’re throwing all the ivy cuttings from their side into our garden.
Meraas · 23/06/2022 12:25
Or is my neighbour?
Why would you think your neighbour is being unreasonable, OP?
YABU for not supervising happening in your home, saying you weren’t there is no excuse.
This morning they’re throwing all the ivy cuttings from their side into our garden.
Good for them.
FictionalCharacter · 23/06/2022 12:03
Neighbour is overreacting but nobody should interfere with plants on someone else’s side of the fence, whether or not they are wild plants or if you don’t like them.
We value the ivy in our garden. Birds nest in it, and in the winter it’s an important food source for birds.
Barbiepink · 23/06/2022 10:55
I just spoke to a friend and they said that the neighbours might try and get compensation or take us to court.
Does that sound likely?
SmartCarDriver · 23/06/2022 12:27
Are you the batshit neighbour?
Meraas · 23/06/2022 12:25
Or is my neighbour?
Why would you think your neighbour is being unreasonable, OP?
YABU for not supervising happening in your home, saying you weren’t there is no excuse.
This morning they’re throwing all the ivy cuttings from their side into our garden.
Good for them.
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FruitFlies · 23/06/2022 12:40
@SilverBirchWithout Yes, quite. I think people are mixing their dislike for ivy with the legal and moral issues here.
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 22/06/2022 19:28
Christ, it's ivy. It grows where it wants to.
Bollocks have they spent years growing it 'how they want it'.
I hope you pointed out that it was coming up through your paving slabs, therefore damaging your property.
Why on earth did you buy her a bunch of flowers? I'd have given her a bunch of the ivy...
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