While I was at work today I asked my dad if he would be able to come round and trim the ivy/weeds that are growing in our back garden.
He said he would.
I went to work, my dad messages me and tells me he’s done it.
I got home and went into the garden to check out the work.
My next door neighbour came out and told me in no uncertain terms that my dad had cut ivy from their side of the fence as well and he’d pulled it out by the roots.
She said she’d spent 20 years growing it in the way she wanted it to be.
Her husband said she’s been crying all afternoon.
I said I was so sorry and it wasn’t my intention, it was my fault for not communicating what I wanted correctly to my dad. I just wanted the weeds pulled out and the ivy trimmed back as it was starting to grow up through the paving slabs.
Anyway, they were very upset and on the war path.
I went out and bought her some flowers to say sorry and she nearly didn’t accept them, then did, even though she said she was still so upset she couldn’t talk about it.
I hate confrontation and I feel really uneasy tonight now. I’m not sure what to do for the best.
AIBU?
Or is my neighbour?
Barbiepink · 22/06/2022 19:16
Am I being unreasonable?
1053 votes. Final results.
POLLBarbiepink · 23/06/2022 07:55
This morning they’re throwing all the ivy cuttings from their side into our garden.
ImAvingOops · 22/06/2022 19:35
Ivy is a fucking menace. She has no business growing something that is damaging your property, then whinging when you remove it!
Besides, it will grow back in about 5 minutes!
viques · 23/06/2022 11:30
Where does your dad live and how much an hour does he charge to kill ivy? Asking for a friend………………
Choccyp1g · 22/06/2022 19:52
Where do you live ? If it's anywhere near me, I'll pay your Dad good money if he can get the ivy out of my garden.
FallopianTubeTrain · 22/06/2022 19:28
He could have aimed a nuclear missle at it and it'll all be back by the end of the week. Your neighbour will get over it, you apologised, nothing more you can do.
On the flipside my neighbour and I have a coordinated battle plan to destroy the masses of ivy that grows down the boundary line, it takes both of us tackling from either side to even remotely make a dent in the evil shit.
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SmartCarDriver · 23/06/2022 11:20
This 100% it's fucking horrible invasive stuff!
ImAvingOops · 22/06/2022 19:35
Ivy is a fucking menace. She has no business growing something that is damaging your property, then whinging when you remove it!
Besides, it will grow back in about 5 minutes!
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