While I was at work today I asked my dad if he would be able to come round and trim the ivy/weeds that are growing in our back garden.
He said he would.
I went to work, my dad messages me and tells me he’s done it.
I got home and went into the garden to check out the work.
My next door neighbour came out and told me in no uncertain terms that my dad had cut ivy from their side of the fence as well and he’d pulled it out by the roots.
She said she’d spent 20 years growing it in the way she wanted it to be.
Her husband said she’s been crying all afternoon.
I said I was so sorry and it wasn’t my intention, it was my fault for not communicating what I wanted correctly to my dad. I just wanted the weeds pulled out and the ivy trimmed back as it was starting to grow up through the paving slabs.
Anyway, they were very upset and on the war path.
I went out and bought her some flowers to say sorry and she nearly didn’t accept them, then did, even though she said she was still so upset she couldn’t talk about it.
I hate confrontation and I feel really uneasy tonight now. I’m not sure what to do for the best.
AIBU?
Or is my neighbour?
Barbiepink · 22/06/2022 19:16
Am I being unreasonable?
1053 votes. Final results.
POLLBarbiepink · 23/06/2022 13:01
Thats why I bought the flowers as I was worried that my dad had gone a bit over board and maybe pulled something from their side accidentally, but that’s because they are all attached with ours. Their ivy was growing down into our yard, but I just wanted my dad to trim it really. I have apologised.
I’m just trying to decide whether to buy an ivy plant or not and maybe a sorry card.
Barbiepink · 23/06/2022 10:55
I just spoke to a friend and they said that the neighbours might try and get compensation or take us to court.
Does that sound likely?
Notbluepeter · 23/06/2022 13:09
Haha. No it would be a collasal waste of time for them and you. Tort only awards damages in respect of the actual losses suffered. You don't get compensated for hurt feelings.
Barbiepink · 23/06/2022 10:55
I just spoke to a friend and they said that the neighbours might try and get compensation or take us to court.
Does that sound likely?
Barbiepink · 22/06/2022 19:29
I said about it growing back but they said it’s taken 20 years to grow it the way they want it to.
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Barbiepink · 23/06/2022 13:01
Thats why I bought the flowers as I was worried that my dad had gone a bit over board and maybe pulled something from their side accidentally, but that’s because they are all attached with ours. Their ivy was growing down into our yard, but I just wanted my dad to trim it really. I have apologised.
I’m just trying to decide whether to buy an ivy plant or not and maybe a sorry card.
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