to go to Glastonbury?

[greentreesgreengrass]

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

Personally I could never have left my babies at 12 weeks, especially for that long. I find it difficult to empathise with someone who can. I wouldn't usually have expressed this to you in conversation, if I knew you, but you did ask.

I also wouldn't have left my baby for so long at that age.

That would have been too soon for me TBH, but if you're going anyway then what will you gain from asking opinions from randoms on the internet?

If you're going anyway you don't need to hear other people's opinions honestly.

I wouldn't do it but I'm not you.

Crikey. I'd be coming home on either the Sunday evening, or first thing Monday. I wouldn't want to leave baby with GPs for another 48/36 hours if I could possibly help it. If I were your parents I'd be feeling a tiny bit taken advantage but then I'm not.

I'd have done it 🤷‍♂️

Another one here who couldn't have left my babies for that long at that age, but...you're not me!

But yeah, not sure why you are asking given you're going to do it anyway?

I thought it was the done thing to take your baby to Glastonbury anyway? start them young.

I couldn't have left mine at that age, not sure what you are starting here other than you getting annoyed at people judging you?

Mm I think it’s asking a lot of your parents who will say it’s fine but might well find looking after such a tiny baby for a week knackering. They just probably won’t want to tell you.

I wouldn't have been able to leave my baby at 12 weeks but if you feel able to, then good for you, ENJOY!

I couldn’t of done it, but you do you!

Almost a week at 12 weeks old would have been way, waaaay too long for me but obviously everyone is different.
What is the point in asking what other people think?

A full week seems like a long time tbh. There’s not even music until Friday and it finishes Sunday, so being away Wednesday/ Thursday and Monday / Tuesday I do find a bit unusual.

I'm just interested in opinions and experiences really- not sure how abnormal we were. seems a few others would do the same but not all so definitely in the minority

Grandparents are more than happy to have him and encouraged us to take a couple of extra days!

I obviously love and completely adore DS, but more than happy to leave him with people I trust implicitly. Have been encouraged to take breaks away a few hours here and there, a night out with friends- lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

For those that wouldn't be able to leave baby- is it because you'd miss them too much?

If you're happy with the situation do it, how far and can you actually bloody get there? Roads are stuffed already...can you get back if there was an emergency?

In particular having a couple of days after to ‘recover’ is a lot imo, I would have been rushing back not choosing to have a 3 day hangover!
If you’re happy and your parents are happy doing the nights with a 12 week old for a week then what’s the problem?

Will they feed clean and keep him safe?
If yes do what you feel ok with

Just... wow!

An overnight, fine but six nights away? And I say this as someone who leaves DD with GPs once a year to go skiing! Honestly, I think at 12 weeks that six nights away is too long for everyone involved. Sorry to be judgy OP but are you sure you have thought this through?

I couldn't have left either of mine at 12 weeks. I would have also been worried that they would miss me.

My sister went to Tenerife for a week when DN was three months and DM had the time of her life looking after though!

Each to their own.

We can cancel the 2days after at last minute with no charge so will be seeing how we feel up until the day

it was all booked before we even knew we'd be having DS!

So the Glastonbury thing is a red herring. Your question is 'would you leave your 3 month old with grandparents for nearly a week to go and enjoy yourself child free?'

My DS is 8 now, stays out once a week at my mums and has done since 1 year old, regularly goes out to stay with other family and friends, goes away for short breaks with grandparents, and I also love going on breaks away without him. However, for the first couple of years I really struggled to leave him for more than one night, and at 12 weeks old I wouldn't have been able to bear the thought of leaving him for a day...

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

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