to go to Glastonbury?

[greentreesgreengrass]

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

@PrincessAnnaOfArundale

out of interest, If you think it’s ok now wouldn’t you have done it at the time?

I desperately craved sleep at that stage, but I didn't feel the need for "a break" from my baby - quite the contrary, actually, I didn't want to leave her.

If I'd have had a break, I'd have just wanted to sleep through it tbh. The idea of going to a festival would not have appealed in the slightest!

If you're going anyway, why ask others what they think?

Regardless of whether or not I think you should leave your baby for a week for the obvious reasons, I'm absolutely in awe of your parents being prepared for a week of sleepless nights.

Oh, and I too would have taken the baby with me. Last time I was there I was pregnant though (12 years ago!) Haven't been able to get tickets since.

LuckySantangelo35 I wouldn’t have done it then for the same reason I couldn’t now. We just don’t have the support network or family to do that sadly. I never could trust anyone to really have our kids. I wish I had a close family who would have offered and who I would have felt safe leaving them with but it wasn’t an option.

All those saying ‘take the baby with you’

just WHY?!

@LuckySantangelo35

Because people are so aghast at the thought of a baby being left any alternative seems better

Madness

Lots of people take small babies to festivals. It isn't also hard core drugs and raving. Esp at Glastonbury. It depends what you want from your festival.

At 6 weeks I craved a break, to sleep, to just not be locked into this cycle but I didn't crave a week away from them no.

At twelve weeks I felt slightly more human so I'd have taken a few hours here and there (except, hello pandemic) but again I wouldn't have craved that long a break.

It isn't the break so much as the duration that's splitting people.

At that age they're actually much easier than a toddler or preschooler. We loved taking our dc to festivals at that age. I probably wouldn't have done a tent with them, but a caravan, sure. Glastonbury in particular is a very family friendly festival with something for everyone. You don't have to be moshing at the front of the Pyramid stage, there's plenty of quieter zones to escape to.

I remember at 12 weeks I was basically a human cow 🤣 so I wouldn’t have been able to leave my DS for more than about 3 hours at that age - it was like that until he was over 6 months old. The first time we left him overnight he was 14 months but that was our personal choice (and covid impact too).

It is ultimately your life and your choice as parents. Have fun xx

I get the whole ‘recovery’ from many x there and wouldn’t go at all, nor take them, it’s too young. I get you had the tickets before, but you also had a chance to return them. Yes, it’s Glastonbury, but you chose to become a parent. Go when they are old enough to understand where you are. Your DC continued peace of mind is surely more important even if you ‘waste’ the tickets? I haven’t gone at any cost, even when I’ve had a ticket. For example, chose not to attend during pregnancy.
From DC perspective, you can’t explain anything. I had first night out locally at 6 months, out for the evening and back by morning. Best friend who had spent a lot of time with them and in home environment (breastfeeding, but also expressed and had a supply DC could have been fed from for days, which I did during illness/antibiotic use).
Totally get people around you finding this at best unusual and saying that as someone who loves Glastonbury. Also would be worried about catching Covid or something else that I will pass on to such a young baby. Not sure how so many thought YANBU but it’s not considering it from the child’s perspective who won’t know if you are ever coming back!

Just go @greentreesgreengrass Rather you than me in the heat and potential thunderstorms! But if you have someone to look after your 3 month old baby for 3-4 days, then good luck to you!

Take no notice of the haters and the people judging. They're probably just jealous, because they never had the same opportunities for someone to look to after the baby/babies when they were little, so they could let their hair down for a few days! You don't need ANYBODY'S approval. Only that of the people looking after your baby. And if they are OK with it, then there's no problem.

ENJOY YOURSELF!

And as for 'take the baby with you!' To fucking GLASTONBURY?! LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😂😂😂

I personally couldn't think of any way worse than spending a child free week at Glastonbury

However, I had no problem leaving my aon with my mum at that age. Infact I would have begged for longer for the break and sleep as he never slept.

I got judged but was too tired to care anyway..

For info he is now 10 and one of the few kids in his class not panicking at the thought of going on the school residential

Each to their own

However, your baby isn't chilled cos you are... Just wait.... It'll all change 😂😂

Not sure that OP needs this break from her exhausting life that everyone's talking about.

Opening post says she frequently dumps her kid on others and the next one talks about how 'chilled' she is.

This is not an exhausted mother desperate for some self-care before she loses the plot.

A break of an hour to go for a run or a swim by myself, sure. A break of a few hours to go out for dinner with DH, absolutely.
But a break of more than a few hours? No, not even slightly, not a tiny bit. Not with my first baby, or my second, or my third.

You're a judgy little charmer aren't you?

The funny thing is you lot are still arguing over whether the OP is a worse parent than Fritzl whilst she's off having a brilliant time at Glastonbury. 😂

@orwellwasright

She, she, she, her, her, mother

No mention of the dad, huh?

@LuckySantangelo35

I wouldnt want to as nothing sounded better than time at home as a family at the time. We had offers of lots of social engagements that i declined.

Thankfully i didnt "loose myself" once i became a mum, i stayed a woman who could make her own decision about what i wanted and how i wanted to spend my time.

I also didn't "loose myself" in the fact that i understand and respect that other people are different and that's a good thing and absolutely fine for people to do things differently to myself. I do whats best for me and mine and everyone else can do the same

I’m not saying that Glastonbury has to be a drug fuelled mosh pit but even so, I’m pretty sure Op could get more into the spirit of things without her baby than with!

And baby can enjoy the peace and quiet with grandparents.

win, win.

I genuinely don’t see how anyone have an issue with this.

I genuinely don’t see how anyone have an issue with this

Im not sure most do have an issue with it . They are giving thier personal opinion on what they would do.
Not an issue with the OP choosing to go

@tiggergoesbounce

but presumably you got loads of time at home as a family? Hours upon hours of it. Did you not want something different as well?

I love being at home and family time but I also need to mix it up a bit with trips away etc. I’d be miserable if home and family time was all I ever did no matter how young my child

Don’t know anyone who has done this .
Worth thinking ahead about worse case scenarios .
If there’s an emergency with baby and a hospital team found out you’d both been away 6 days it might raise some red flags to them . Safeguarding concerns stay on records years whether or not they should. It’s also a very stressful situation to go through when professionals question your parenting. But maybe they are more experienced?
It takes a long time to adapt to having kids, the restrictions on our life etc. Maybe you really don’t want to have to adapt yet, which I remember and made me make sure my contraception was sorted.

Children’s services are not gonna be alarmed by a baby being left with their grandparents for 6 days!! Get a grip!