to go to Glastonbury?

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DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

I have a 10 week old and a 2.5 year old and am very jealous of the people going to Glastonbury. In reality though I don't think I could leave the youngest, not least because he's breastfed and not keen on bottles. If he was fine with being bottle fed, I'm not sure how I'd feel.

So I do have some sympathy, OP. However, suggesting that your baby is chilled out because you are chilled out parents is unlikely to win you much more sympathy on here...

But on the other hand, it's what you're comfortable with. Clearly everyone on this thread couldn't do it but if you can, I doubt your baby will bat an eyelid really

I think there is a world of difference between being away from a baby of that age for a few hours, or for a night out, and being away for several days on the trot.

The odd break from mothering duties is important but for me I would have found it physically impossible not to hold DS for a week.

Very often babies are chilled because they are with their parents and don't want to be parted from them.

No I couldn't of left my babies at 12 weeks for such a period of time. The weekend yes fine but nearly a whole week? He's 12 weeks old ffs.

You’re happy
the grandparents are happy
your kid is chilled and I’m assuming will be more than well cared
who cares?
I would not have done it… personally, but that’s me…. At that age I would have missed them way too much and wouldn’t be able to truly switch off and enjoy…

Personally I would take baby with you, I took my dd2 backpacking at 4 months old along with her 2 year old sister including a music festival, she loved it, they both did

I doubt you will find many (any?) people who would leave their 12 week old baby for a week, no matter how much the grandparents are encouraging you to go away.

I would be surprised if you ended up staying the whole week anyway to be honest! And I say that as someone who let their first baby stay out overnight at 3 weeks old!

I left DD at 11 weeks for 1 night to go to a wedding a few hours away. I spent the whole wedding thinking 'what the hell am I doing?' and didn't enjoy it in the slightest. You might feel differently though, but I'd just go for the minimum amount of time, Friday - Sunday or whatever it might be.

Yeah, don't go down this route, OP. It won't win you any friends.

I couldn't have left mine because they were breastfed until 18 months

It doesn't matter what others think if you're happy with your decision, but perhaps you're not if you're canvassing opinions.

For me, nope, wouldn't have done this. Maybe would have got some baby ear defenders and hired a camper van/ looked into accommodation near by so baby could come too.

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

So your saying everyone else are shit stressed parents? Wow your so full of yourself.

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!) it doesn't work like that and you may find he becomes less "chilled" as time goes on.

Have your parents looked after him overnight before? Have you left him more than one night before? How would you feel if something happened and you needed to get home, would that bother you or would you leave them in the care of your grandparents until you'd sobered up enough. All things to think about only you can decide.

Just going by the title though. AIBU to go to Glastonbury? Yes, sounds awful. You will have to endure Paul McCartney for one.

Absolutely no way could I do this. My baby is 10 months and I am leaving him for 1 night for a wedding in September and I am already worried how I will cope!!!

Of course everyone is different but a week a such a long time! I'd worry my baby would forget me 🙈

How does being chilled manifest in a 13 week old?

😂

😂I thought the same.

I couldn't have left my baby for a week. I would be worried that they would miss me and I would have missed them too. Nobody can look after such a small child as well as their own parebts.

I am also a 'chilled out parent', but I wouldn't dream of palming my baby off for a week with my parents, regardless of how much I trusted them. I'm not a 'pisstaking' parent.

Roads are stuffed already...can you get back if there was an emergency?

The roads aren't stuffed already; I've just got back from Glastonbury town and traffic is (oddly) no different to usual. But PP raises a good point; are you travelling by car? If there's an emergency or your parents can't cope, will you be able to get home quickly under your own steam? I'd also not like the fact there's f*all signal at Glastonbury.

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

Lol. Don't speak too soon. He'll probably turn into the toddler from hell.

I hope for you parents sake that he doesn't go through a regression. If mine had been bottle fed I would have been tempted although I would want to be able to return if needed.
Have you made sure that your parents are up to date with what to do if baby has a temp etc or is bringing up his milk.

For what it's worth OP, I went to a nighttime gig (in my home town) 3 days after giving birth. And it was the best gig ever. I burst a stitch dancing but that night was the highlight of my week and I'm not ashamed to admit it.
Have a great time!!

Haha I thought similar! Good luck to you op. I couldn't have done it but I wished I could've iyswim?

Good point.. 3 month sleep regression..

Glastonbury isn't a place for babies / young kids anymore. More so in a tent when its going to be warm.