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Have just sent neighbour’s builder away

395 replies

Allthecoolusernamesaregone · 20/06/2022 14:35

Our neighbour said she was having work done and we agreed access and to have scaffolding in our garden. We knew it would be inconvenient, but the work was only due to take a few days.

We made sure paths etc were clear and the scaffolding was put up about 10 days before the work was due to start.

It makes access through our normal route very tight, and blocks the majority of light to the kitchen, but is about what we thought.

It’s worse at the moment due to a pre existing agreement to look after my friend’s rabbits, as their run takes up a lot of space, and I have to navigate a ‘squirrel style assault course’ to reach my washing line.

The building work didn’t start as planned, and we have now had the scaffolding up for one month. The Tesco delivery man can’t get his trolley through, so we meet in the garden ( yes, I know ‘first world’ problems!).

We didn’t know work would be starting today, but mid morning my dog
barked ( fortunately he was safely in the house). I saw that my back gate had been wedged open, and men were bringing things into the garden.

They knocked on the door to complain that there were some things stored close to one of the access areas. ( the access itself was clear). I have a postage stamp sized garden and with the scaffolding and the rabbit run I don’t really have anywhere else to move things. The one who was doing all the talking said something like ‘it’s on you if it gets ruined then’.

I asked him to make sure the gate was shut when they were not working in my garden due to my dog ( I will have to take him into the open plan front garden on a lead whilst they are working). He told me they weren’t going to be opening and shutting gates all the time.

I asked when they would be working and he said they would be here when they are here and it might be a day this week and then when they had time over a few weeks. He was almost aggressively vague.

I wasn’t happy, the scaffolding is already a pain, and over a period of a few weeks, with no prior notice, I can’t guarantee that no one will accidentally let the dog out not knowing they are there or have left the gate open.

The final straw came when he again banged on my door and demanded I move the rabbit run, which is about 18” away from the path, and not especially in the way. My husband is away and I couldn’t move it on my own even if I had space.

He said it was my garden and my responsibility to move stuff to give him access. He wanted to set up a cement mixer in that space, and plug it in in my garage. (The garage is normally kept locked.) He was very unpleasant.

I admit I lost my temper there. I told him I was pleased he realised it was my garden and as such I wanted him to remove himself and all of his stuff from it.

I have seen the mess sometimes left by mixing cement and if he had been reasonable I would probably have put up with it, but he was not, and he is not running it on my electricity.

He started ranting that he had a right to be there to get to next door’s job.

I told him that access had been granted with my permission and I was now withdrawing it, and he needed to leave.

He then said he was wasting his time dealing with a woman and wanted to speak to my husband.

At that stage I told him to Fuck off, and left saying I would be phoning the police.

I was on hold for 101 but was quite surprised to see him packing up his stuff and going!

My neighbour is at work and unaware of the confrontation. I have no idea how she will react.

OP posts:
SoSo19 · 20/06/2022 14:38

You are definitely not being unreasonable!

Cheeky bastard, it’s not your problem and I’m glad you called the police. No good deed and all that.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 20/06/2022 14:38

I would have called the neighbour and said the deals off- no way would I let someone use my electricity for their works.
As for him, the minute he said speak to my husband I would have lost it- well done OP

LittlestBaoBun · 20/06/2022 14:39

He's an entitled misogynistic cunt. Well done for seeing him off.

SquirrelRed · 20/06/2022 14:39

Wow! Good on you for not being afraid to tell him to do one- I think you put up with more than was reasonable there!

SavoirFlair · 20/06/2022 14:40

Think you did the right thing

struggling to visualise why a builder would need so much access to your garden, AND your electricity, in order to do works for a neighbour - what was the deal there?

LolaButt · 20/06/2022 14:40

If my neighbour had allowed access, and been spoken to like shit I would be mortified and wouldn’t have them working on my house.

Miracle101 · 20/06/2022 14:40

Jesus Christ, what a prick. I'm surprised you put up with it until that point! Scaffolding would be coming down if it were my garden.

ChickpeaPie · 20/06/2022 14:41

Well done!!

11Hawkins · 20/06/2022 14:41

I would text your neighbour and tell her you've withdrew your consent and to get the scaffolding down. She'll have to do the work another way without using your access.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 20/06/2022 14:42

Why isn’t he doing all this in the customer’s garden? I can understand scaffolding need img to be partly in an adjacent garden, but surely they can access the scaffolding and do mixing and work in the property from their customers side - your neighbours side.
Do you have a cf neighbour who doesn’t want the inconvenience in their garden???

yanbu btw!!

TidyDancer · 20/06/2022 14:42

Wow! What an awful man! I'd hope your neighbour would back you up and be mortified tbh. YANBU.

bigbluebus · 20/06/2022 14:42

Well done you. I would absolutely not have tolerated that attitude. And in what way dies access to do the work include using your electricity?

torquewench · 20/06/2022 14:43

He wanted to run a concrete mixer using your electricity for doing work for your neighbour? Cheeky twat! I'd explain to your neighbour how rude and unreasonable he's been. And find out how much per KWH it costs to run a mixer. Hopefully your neighbour'll understand.

TattiePants · 20/06/2022 14:43

You've given access but it sounds like the builder is completely taking the piss. Well done on giving him his marching orders and he'll just have to find another way to do the job.

ZaraSizeMedium · 20/06/2022 14:44

Neighbour would be given 7 days notice to get their scaffolding off my property the minute they arrive home today.

britneyisfree · 20/06/2022 14:44

They were horrid but I suspect your neighbour will be fuming.

EvilPea · 20/06/2022 14:45

what a cunt

him not you

can I speak to the husband.
what an absolute cunt!! I’m livid for you.
i can’t blame you and I’d have lost my shit as well.

RedWingBoots · 20/06/2022 14:45

Oops I shouldn't have read this thread.

Just told a delivery driver to "Fuck off" when he didn't do as I said and go to the neighbour whose parcel it is. The neighbour is in.

StormTreader · 20/06/2022 14:45

I'm having garden work done at the moment that needed access from next door - they're literally just walking across their garden to get to mine and are keeping the gate closed, that should be all that "access" is, you've been very generous already to allow the scaffolding!

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/06/2022 14:47

What an arsehole. The lack of decent builders does give those there are the permission to act like shit to everyone. Shame some of them take full advantage of this.

LadyDanburysHat · 20/06/2022 14:47

Well done you for telling him to get lost.

itsgettingweird · 20/06/2022 14:48

LittlestBaoBun · 20/06/2022 14:39

He's an entitled misogynistic cunt. Well done for seeing him off.

Totally!!!!

Seasidemumma77 · 20/06/2022 14:48

If I was your neighbour I would be finding another builder ASAP.

SaltedCaramelIcedLatte · 20/06/2022 14:49

What a twat, good for you standing up for yourself...I would have told him to fuck off a lot sooner than you did!

FabFitFifties · 20/06/2022 14:49

YANBU - He wouldn't get back into my garden. If it's not a large firm, with other workers to replace him, deal would be off with neighbour I'm afraid. I'd be mortified if I were your neighbour.

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