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To be relieved the world is starting to see some sense?

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portugalq · 19/06/2022 18:26

Fina bars transgender swimmers from women's elite events if they went through male puberty www.bbc.co.uk/sport/swimming/61853450

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ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:04

A woman is whoever identifies as one! I don’t believe it can be objectively defined.

Then how do you know which competition and which changing room Thomas should enter?

How do you know which of your parents is your mother?

CaliforniaDrumming · 24/06/2022 12:04

A cat is whoever identifies as one. It can't be defined. Similarly an ironing board.

TheKeatingFive · 24/06/2022 12:05

Maybe I'm actually a skyscraper 🤔

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:07

If you can't define a woman, how do you define a transwoman?

georgarina · 24/06/2022 12:07

@StolenCookie How do you know you are a woman if 'woman' can't be objectively defined? Or do you not know?

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:12

<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=twitter.com/zubymusic/status/1100348562041462784%3Flang%3Den&ved=2ahUKEwiL74nS-cX4AhUyQEEAHUUJAcQQwqsBegQIBhAB&usg=AOvVaw34cBAqix0nGTqYO0KPlRfv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The rapper Zuby beat a women's weightlifting record while identifying as a woman.

Why is Zuby not now listed as one of the strongest women in the world, if a woman is both indefinable and also anyone who identifies as one? This is rank injustice. Aren't you going to fight for Zuby's medal?

334bu · 24/06/2022 12:12

www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/live:bbc_radio_sussex

From just after 11 discussion on whether male athletes who identify as women should be included in female sport.

RenegadeMatron · 24/06/2022 12:14

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 11:52

People keep asking me for answers. I’ve been very clear I don’t have them! I don’t know how we both protect vulnerable women and protect vulnerable trans women’s rights.

But I’m afraid my appreciation of this topic as being a complex one doesn’t convince me that trans women are not women. They are 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t understand why you keep (repeatedly) distinguishing between women and transwomen.

You say they’re one and the same.

So why do you keep referring to women and transwomen?

Also, just wondering @StolenCookie - do you know how babies are made?

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:14

Don't know what happened there. Here's the link.

Justice for Zuby the strongwoman.

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:22

RenegadeMatron · 24/06/2022 12:14

I don’t understand why you keep (repeatedly) distinguishing between women and transwomen.

You say they’re one and the same.

So why do you keep referring to women and transwomen?

Also, just wondering @StolenCookie - do you know how babies are made?

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

CaliforniaDrumming · 24/06/2022 12:26

What if some of us feel we are born in the wrong human body and identify with cats? I have a cat whom I adore and I often feel closer to her than humans.

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:27

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

I thought you agreed not to use that offensive term any more.

What is a woman's body?

Rainbowshit · 24/06/2022 12:27

You're very far behind the time Stolen, no one says born in the wrong body anymore. Not even those crackpots Mermaids.

VestofAbsurdity · 24/06/2022 12:27

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

This tedious, illogical waffle just gets worse. How can you be born into a body? What kind of risible nonsense is that?

and coming from someone, allegedly, pregnant....Hmm

TheKeatingFive · 24/06/2022 12:28

or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity

How would you know if another body matches your gender identity? You've never been in another.

What if you're born into a body that doesn't match your internally understood racial identity? Why is that not legit?

And more fundamentally than any of that, you can't actually escape your own body. Chopping bits off it doesn't make it essentially different.

FemmeNatal · 24/06/2022 12:31

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:22

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

We are only our bodies. You are positing a dualist view, that there is a sexed soul which exists independently of our physical selves. That is completely unevidenced. It’s a religious / spiritual viewpoint.

TheKeatingFive · 24/06/2022 12:32

The whole idea of being in the 'wrong body' is so bizarre. You cant be in another one.

FemmeNatal · 24/06/2022 12:32

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:22

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

You are again using the offensive term “cis”. Why are you choosing to be offensive like this?

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:37

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:27

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

I thought you agreed not to use that offensive term any more.

What is a woman's body?

I agreed not to use it in relation to yourselves. I identify as a cis woman and I have every right to state that!

Mascia · 24/06/2022 12:39

TheKeatingFive · 24/06/2022 11:54

But I’m afraid my appreciation of this topic as being a complex one doesn’t convince me that trans women are not women. They are

But you can't define what a woman is, so how can you state that?

Your only justification for that position is how they feel. But that's no different to me, deeply and sincerely feeling that im a cat. Am I a cat?

That's a very good question and I'm yet to see a coherent answer - can anyone self-identify as anything? If that is how they feel?
How can words have meanings if we can't define them?

ReneBumsWombats · 24/06/2022 12:40

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:37

I agreed not to use it in relation to yourselves. I identify as a cis woman and I have every right to state that!

But you aren't using it only for yourself. You have imposed your view upon us by stating "you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women)."

You are being highly offensive, misgendering us and mislabelling us.

What is a woman's body?

How can you identify as a woman if woman is indefinable?

RenegadeMatron · 24/06/2022 12:41

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:22

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

But that doesn’t make any sense.

You’re saying transwomen are women?

RenegadeMatron · 24/06/2022 12:45

Once you’ve answered that question - which is ‘why are there different words for women and transwomen if they’re exactly the same thing?’, I’ll repeat my other question for you.

I don’t want to derail getting an answer to the first question.

babyjellyfish · 24/06/2022 12:50

StolenCookie · 24/06/2022 12:22

Because you are either born in what you feel is the correct body for you (cis women) or born into a different body that doesn’t match your gender identity (trans women).

So what do male people who believe they were born in the wrong body have in common with female people who don't believe they were born in the wrong body?

Beowulfa · 24/06/2022 12:51

Well, I may have started off reading the thread thinking FINA's carefully researched and worded statement was sensible, but StolenCookie's glittering arguments have persuaded me otherwise. I now know:

-it's really hard to define a "woman", but if a man says he is one then he definitely is (whatever it is).
-if you are in a female changing room and you see a penis, it's awfully rude of you to call it a knob.

I hope other lurkers are similarly enlightened.