Father’s Day if you have two mums

[Africa2004]

My daughter has two mums. We have a good relationship with her preschool & it’s never been an issue.
This Father’s Day they produced photos of each of the children holding signs dedicated to their daddy (a few said grandad). They posted these on social media. My child was the only one holding a sign dedicated to nobody, she looked very happy in the photo but it really upset me.
I can’t decide whether it’s no big deal or whether they should’ve asked/just put mummy or not posted on social media?

That's what I was thinking would be the logical step. Pop a grandad on the sign. Doesn't have to be a dad, could be an uncle or other relation.

@Comedycook but thats not always the case and why not say we are making cards as fathers dAy , but you can make a card for whoever you like
For some dads/ mums when kids are little it might be the only card they get of their child
There is a compromise and children realise that not all have mum and dad at home ,

Thank you xx

@Comedycook what about the child that wants to make a card for mum and school is only place
In this day and age it would be very unlikely that just one child would be making a card for mum on fathers day or dad on mothers day etc so they wouldn't feel left out or the odd one out
What about when say xmas is celebrated and for some that may be a time that something awful happened to them or any other triggering events of which there may be many

They should have checked with you. That’s what both our nursery and school did,
asked if there was anyone else DCs would like to make cards for. They did, their grandads.
wouodnt have occurred to us actually!
but they do the same for kids of single parents, looked after kids, kid who live with grandparents etc

‘just people saying your daughter had a right to have a relationship with her father and that many/most ss relationships usually make sure the child has a relationship during childhood with the father/donor. Which I am sure most would agree with.’

no, most Families with 2 mums do NOT make sure the child has a relationship with the donor. Most donors are anonymous, and in the U.K. that’s protected by law until the child is 18.
what the children do have is 2 parents who very much wanted them- no accidents- and In my experience as a LGBT parent make sure that their children have good, male role models.
inthe U.K. 3 MILLION children being brought up in female ( heterosexual) households with the father living elsewhere and 1 MILLION of those have no contact at all with their birth father.
i’m not sure that it’s the gay families who need to be worrying about parental involvement in children lives…

OP as a gay parent I can tell you that I can post about anything to do with my kids and someone will hop on the thread to offer up their opinion on whether or not we should have had kids… regardless of whether or not it’s relevant to the subject being discussed … a bit like in RL really.

Snap.

Although my personal favourite are people who find it appropriate to blame me for the abuse he suffered at the hands of his birth parent. Then in second place we have the ones who call me a peadophile, or recently on MN sinister.

@Ahgoonyegirlye Sorry you have to put up with this. In my naivety I believed attitudes were changing but the fact very few people backed me when I called out the previous poster who had made totally unnecessary and vile comments towards the OP (of no relevance to the question, actually) makes me realise otherwise! I can't understand why a child having loving parents, regardless of how that looks is of such concern to people to be honest!

@Thefoxsays I don’t think I thanked you for defending me. I do appreciate it:)
it’s scary, as to my face everyone we meet seems accepting but give people anonymity behind a keyboard and you get abuse. I still think it’s a small minority though.