To think you can’t just disappear for months on end & then expect everyone to drop everything

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A good friend of mine has been having a hard time & decided she wanted to go no contact with everyone in her life for a few months while she sorted stuff out. She announced this everywhere, on social media, in what’s app groups etc.

Well, 4 months later she has done a ‘ta-da’ kind of thing and reappeared and wants to meet up as she is ready to see people.

thing is- I am really busy until September as have kids stuff, work stuff, summer hols etc going on and she is pissed off about it.

I am trying to be supportive and have been all along and accepted that she needed a time out from everything. But am I also being unreasonable to think that you can’t just vanish for months & then reappear and expect everyone to drop everything?

The argument that if you can be on mumsnet, you're not busy is laughable. I start work at 10am and finish at 7pm so have time to be online on some days before work. Wouldn't use this time for anything other than housework or resting.

I work some weekends so the free weekends we have, we spend together, the rest taken up by seeing friends and family.
If a friend wanted to meet on a weekend that suits her, like OP it would be months away as we plan ahead because most friends and family live far, so needs to be planned in advance.
Evenings are for de-stressing as DH also has a demanding job, so wouldnt be face-timing anyone as would be family time.

Busy doesn't mean not having spare time, at all, it means that time is allocated accordingly to one's needs and for the good of their mental health too.

Well said.