To think neighbours should have sent out a polite notice that there will be a wedding in their garden?

[Pipsquiggle]

Just that really

They have a field, and in the last couple of days I have seen a massive circus tent marquee go up. I have only noticed it as I happened to go on a walk that way

We live on a single track lane with no parking. The only access will be walking down our lane, past our houses. I am guessing there will be 200 to 300 guests by the size of marquee.

We are in a neighbours Whatsapp group. All they needed to say was
'It's going to be a bit busy and noisy on Saturday, our DC is getting married. It should be finished around 11:30pm'

Yes they should have.

Yes it would have been polite to let you know in advance

It would have been polite of them to do that, and very simple. YANBU for sure!

It would have been nice of them but I don't think they have to as long as they keep the noise down after 10pm.

Blimey, of course they should've said something! You're likely to end up with parking issues and noise and a tonne of inconvenience. The very least they should've done was give you a heads up!

Ideally yes, but is there past history of some neighbour's interfering/complaining when they are given notice of something happening?

Our little area is like this. Someone gives out a polite warning that they're planning a party/fireworks/bbq out of politeness. Then certain neighbours start sticking their oar in and quoting all kinds of official stuff and giving their (unasked for) opinions.

I think you are jumping the gun a bit by guestimating the amount of guests. That's a huge amount of guests and I personally have never been to a wedding with even close to that many people.

If you can only see the marquee as you walk past it and not from your house and you say it is a very large marquee, surely it's a fair way from your house?

Sure it might be polite to let you know but I don't think they've done anything wrong by not letting you know. It's only one night.

Some neighbours did this a few years ago, but to be fair they sent a polite note through all the doors in the area. Their DD was getting married and they were hosting the party in their garden in a marquee.

Didn't make me any less furious at 2am when the band eventually finished playing

Of course they should have told you!

I'd be so pissed off, I'd be considering unleashing the Power Tools, and getting other annoyed neighbours to do the same.

I'd not do it, as I'm not a twat. But I'd think about it.

It would've been simple and convenient to give you the heads up as you have a neighbours Whatsapp group. But they may have felt obliged to then invite some neighbours.

It's only one day/night, so try not to worry about it.

How do you know it's a wedding anyway, have they told you this?

Just pop any questions you might have regarding parking/noise etc in the Whatsapp group.

I agree that you should ask what’s going on on the WhatsApp.

Why not put on the WhatsApp group that you've seen the marquee going up and as they're having an event what is the parking situation and what time will it finish? Don't sit and stew, wanting to know more and having the means to find out but not actually saying anything!

Of course they should. Sadly manners seem to be becoming a thing of the past.

Maybe they will have people park in one section of the field? Yanbu I'd want my neighbour to tell me but they've probably had a lot of planning going on and informing the neighbours may have slipped their mind.

Knowing in advance wouldn't have made much difference because they wouldn't be asking if it's okay. They probably wanted to avoid any objections - better to ask forgiveness than permission iyswim. It's only one event - if they were renting the field out for regular weddings then you'd have a right to be annoyed.

I agree ^

Maybe they didn't want someone in the group to mistake it for an invite? Or maybe they thought the giant tent going up was enough of a clue?

@rosesinmygarden

I think this may be it. There is 1 set of neighbours they don't get on with who are also in the WhatsApp group.

How silly not to let everyone know in advance. For all they know you could have been planning to jack hammer up your patio right when the vows were scheduled for. I would post a question on the whats app group to find out what is happening and when

Cross post, maybe message them privately then, and also work out if your driveway is likely to get blocked, maybe you can move your car to a strategic location so that it wont matter.

From the info you've given, you're getting ahead of yourself.

Do you know it's a wedding? Do you know it's today? Do you know they'll have lots of cars coming and causing traffic problems?

IF it's a wedding they could well have a bus bringing people from e.g. a church and taking them later to local hotels. Or have people parking in the field (if it's possible for vehicles to access it).

Wait and see what actually happens - or as pp's have said ask the question - before you waste energy getting annoyed over potentially nothing.

It's a marquee, in a field, which the OP saw when she was out on a walk. Not sure neighbourly noise is going to be that much of an issue for them

@ANUsernam I agree, it sounds as though the OP has got way ahead of herself.

OP, have you messaged the Whatsapp group yet? What are people saying?

350 guests at my wedding this year in March but it was a huge punjabi wedding.

OP, I agree a polite bit of notice would have been helpful.