To want to say the biggest ‘fuck you’ ever!

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So, I left my previous job last year(teacher) I was treated really badly by certain members of SLT (bullying, gaslighting, negative comments etc) so much so that I had a breakdown and was signed off for a while. I began to believe that I was a rubbish teacher as that’s what I was told by them day in day out.

Fast forward to now, I’m in the most amazing school, with wonderful staff and kids, glowing reviews with my teaching mojo back and I LOVE it!

Tomorrow is the leaving party for a friend of mine from my old school. The bullying SLT members will be there.
Should I
a) Just ignore them and focus on my friends
b) Make a beeline for them and go on and on about how much I love my new job
c) Poke them in the eyes

My husband says b), I know a and b are what I will choose between.
c) is so tempting though - any more suggestions on how to say ‘fuck you’!

Totally ignore - don’t even look at them and feel all smug inside - hope it goes well

Is A YABU and B YANBU? A. You’ve won, don’t give then any satisfaction. Be gracious, magnanimous and there for your friend. You love your new life - That’s revenge enough.

A

what is SLT?

A) because word will get back to the bullies about your great new job and it's much more satisfying that you don't tell them, they hear about it third hand

B and C.

Senior leadership team

A, but with a ‘sorry, remind me of your name again?’ if anyone villainous approaches you!

A. And when asked "how are you?" you simply answer "never been happier - thank you" and smile.

A, however tempting the others may be.
Congrats on turning things around! Hope you continue to enjoy the new job.

Other people will probably ask how you are and how the new job is going, you can tell them when asked and you know it will get back to the one you don't like. As tempting as it is to do b, you will come off looking far better to ignore her and just engage with your old friends who care instead.

Don't bother going. I was bullied at my previous school & there’s no way I’d step foot back in that viper ‘s nest. Tell your friend you’ll take her out on her own on your own ground.

A.
Don’t waste your time on making a point. That will only show you as having been affected. Take the moral high ground, celebrate with your friend and if anyone asks if you regret leaving, you can say ‘absolutely not, other than missing a few people I regret not leaving sooner’. Good luck and well done by the way 😃

I did option B once, when I changed departments, I was asked by someone in old bullying office how new job was, and I said I was loving it, enjoying it a lot more, all normal things I felt.
Then new manager in new department got a letter of complaint from old manager about how I was upsetting my old team by acting like I was better than them (that was the exact words in the letter).
Yes, I was now higher paid than any of them, including old manager, but all I had said was how much I was enjoying it. I had actually been careful not to be bitchy.
They still used it against me anyway.
New department ended up being equally bad and that letter didn't help make them light me.
I left with a big payout thanks to my union - years of bullying, discrimination and GDPR fuck up with my personal data.
Now in a much better job with nicer people. Would still very much like to say fuck you if the opportunity arose but instead I'd take option A.
I learned.

I’m not sure I’d go if I didn’t have to. I know you might be going to see your friend but these people still have influence over your feelings (bullying leaves lasting damage, believe me I understand). Why put yourself through it? I wouldn’t even bother going

Definitely A.
Maintain your dignity and don’t stoop to their level. You being nonchalant and indifferent towards them is the best revenge. Don’t even ignore them- just pretend they don’t matter and are so insignificant to you that you don’t need to acknowledge them over a cursory glance and nod of head or a distracted smile from afar.

A all the way.

Head high, nice makeup, nails and hair, nice clothes, shoes, bag. Focus on your friends. Little smile and wave to the bullies as you're leaving.

If any of them approaches you, resist the urge to do B or C. Smile, nod, tell them nothing, stick to boring generalities, smile, smile, smile.

Say a bright and breezy hello then concentrate on your friends. Anything more will look childish.

A. The SLT aren't worth wasting your breath on.

Well done on not quitting teaching after such a horrid experience and sticking with it until you found the right school for you.

Rise above it. Ignore them. It will get back to them how happy you are at your new school.

This. Plus you might ruin your friends birthday

fionaapple. thanks - all I could think was speech and language teacher😊

Hold your head high and go for A. Have a lovely time with your friends.

I think so too.
Even if you go with friends, what's the point? Take your friend out on her own, as pp's have suggested.

Be happy and have fun with your friends. Don't give the bullies the time of day.