To want to say the biggest ‘fuck you’ ever!

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So, I left my previous job last year(teacher) I was treated really badly by certain members of SLT (bullying, gaslighting, negative comments etc) so much so that I had a breakdown and was signed off for a while. I began to believe that I was a rubbish teacher as that’s what I was told by them day in day out.

Fast forward to now, I’m in the most amazing school, with wonderful staff and kids, glowing reviews with my teaching mojo back and I LOVE it!

Tomorrow is the leaving party for a friend of mine from my old school. The bullying SLT members will be there.
Should I
a) Just ignore them and focus on my friends
b) Make a beeline for them and go on and on about how much I love my new job
c) Poke them in the eyes

My husband says b), I know a and b are what I will choose between.
c) is so tempting though - any more suggestions on how to say ‘fuck you’!

move on

The best revenge is a life lived well, so b. But whilst you are imagining c.

I would do a.

They are not worth wasting your time and energy on.

I think option A will be the biggest fuck you

Well done on getting out and having a better job 👍

a) Just ignore them and focus on your friends.

Honestly, they won't care whether you love your new job and might not believe you're doing as well as you say, if you go on about it as it might sound as though you're trying to convince them.

Go along, look happy and confident, and ignore them completely...

A, but if they approach you 100% B - enjoy!

Option A

Don't burn bridges, what if you needed to find a new job next year and they wanted 3-5 years employment references?

Beyond that, you're there to celebrate an event for your friend, focus on that.

Go with A. B is a bit ‘protest too much’.

The very fact you are able to attend will show them your strength and that you have moved on. As will being happy with your friends - just don’t ‘fake’ laugh too loudly etc.

Well done! Xx

A.
When they go low, you go high. 😉
It will kill them if you pointedly ignore them.

If they ask how you are I would say I was absolutely wonderful thank you and that leaving that school was the best thing I'd ever done. If they ask why, just say the management…

A. Along with “my apologies, who are you? ‘’ if they try to talk to you, which I doubt they will.

A

Why bother doing anything else.

She'd make herself look like a right tit, she only left last year 😂😂

A! Anything else will look like they still get to you!

A - don't waste anymore of your time & energy on them. Focus on friends who have a more positive impact on your life

If the ex SLT members come over a polite 'have a nice evening' to whatever it is they say and then ignore. No good will come of letting things get out of hand.

B

a) with a little side order of b) to achieve c)

So - concentrate on the friend whose party it is. Obviously you don't get her a sorry you're leaving card as you don't work there, so get her a card that says Congratulations on it. Bring a bottle of bubbly, pour everyone some and cheerlead the toast to friend's marvellous future which the arseholes will naturally be forced to drink to.

Beam at friend a lot, tell her you're happy for her, excited for her (new job/ maternity/ rocking in a corner/ whatever reason she is leaving). Basically face, tone and body language like it's a party to celebrate her scooping the Euromillions jackpot and getting engaged to the winner of Britain's Hottest Bachelor.

A. You're not there for them you're there for your friend. If they approach you you get to remind them its your friends event and not about them.

May their fingers get all the papercuts!

Another thing that's wrong with 'b' is that if they truly believed you were awful at your job, and you try to convince them you're getting glowing reports in this one, all they're going to be saying to each other is 'give it time'...

Fuck them, just support your friend and catch up with your ex colleagues who you get on well with.

No it shows she’s forgotten them already and really unsettled them. It’s not what they are expecting, they usually freeze up like an old computer and it’s hilarious watching them trying to reboot and come back at you. That’s when you smile and turn away.
Works a treat with bullies.

A

The B plan giant fuck you, never goes as planned and passive aggressive conversations are always cringe to witness. Plus, if they bullied you before, they know how to get to you, so you probably will not win. Just move on and enjoy time with people who matter. These people do not matter.

Or...you know...pokey pokey 👁👁👀😂

A & only B in as much as if asked say

“Yes a lot better thanks. The people are genuinely good at their jobs & also just really nice. Bye then”

I'd say hi how are you with a big smile and then go on about how marvellous your new job is and how fantastic it is to work with normal people again.

Have some dignity for gawds sake

A