I agree with @madasawethen .
come on, @Polkadotdress1 youve said yourself he isn’t treating you well, that he’s ignoring you saying “no” and that you feel manipulated by him.
just because you have been treated badly in the past doesn’t mean you have to accept this is your lot from men.
you have a whole thread of women saying “eeeeeeewwww”. If all these women wouldn’t accept his behaviour then why should you?
does he make you feel good about yourself? Not the sex, I mean, do you feel like you matter, really matter to him?
as in, would he do mundane stuff just to help you? Boring stuff, not as an investment to get sex out of you, but just because he’s willing and kind?
do you think that if there was an emergency he’d drop everything and come running? What about if you sprained your ankle, would he do shopping and drop it round and cook you a meal and hand you an ice pack and painkillers without asking but he’s monitoring the time and anticipating what you will need? Would he sit down with you and help work out how you can pay for a new boiler when you’ve only just paid for a holiday? Would he offer to give you a lift to a night out even if it was eating into his evening, just because he knows your shoes are ludicrously uncomfortable but he respects your choice to be daft enough to wear them?
I’ve never had a man who’s done those things - but I’m aiming to raise two to be that guy.
a man who dismisses or tries to negotiate your “no” is not a good man. you know that.
You deserve to be heard, and what you said was “no”.