What would you make of this message?

[Glittersparkle76]

My partner and I have been together on and off for nearly 10 years and we have a 9 year old daughter.He works away in hospitality and comes back to me and my daughter when he gets days off.I woke during the early hours and found this message he had sent,all lovely until I read the part when he said he had loved others more!,I thought WTAF??,why would you even need to say that to me?,are some things best left unsaid??.He's meant to be coming back late tonight for 3 days but now I feel like telling him to fuck off and don't bother!.Am I overreacting to this message?,I feel like I'm second,third or even fourth best now and don't think I will ever be able to get that comment out of my head.
Even if I felt in my past I had loved others more than I do him,I would never say that to him as I don't feel it needs to be said!.
I would love others opinions on this and how they would feel if their partner sent them this message.

No he's not on drugs,he's very anti drugs but yes,I can see why it looks like he is!

Is it some weird shitey meme or chain text?

Is English his first language ? This sounds like something my sister's partner would write

He is not from the UK but very romantic

Sometimes it all comes out a bit weird , her biggest issue is not laughing at the time

So .. drunk ? Half asleep or language ?

The comma before the ‘right now’ makes it particularly apparent doesn’t it?

Is the gist: ‘I loved others more than you but they all chose other people so I guess (as I’m left with you) then, by default, I love you the most’?

If so that would be the end of the relationship for me.

I think there is so much wrong with this message and I'd be gutted to receive this. The first line says I want to love you and then goes on to say that he ended up with you. I also don't like how me mentions the others are now in happy relationships so basically he has no opportunity to hurt you.
Wtf? Either he's not very good with words or for some reason he's bring brutally honest.
You are worth so much more my love x

That message made me clamp my legs together so quickly it was like a round of applause.

Everything about that message is deeply irritating. Not even just the bits that are outright hurtful. All of it.

I'm guessing by the “on and off” bit that he has previous arseholian form?

I sort of understand where he is coming from. I don’t believe in eternal love or that there is only one ‘right’ person.

Depends on your expectations.

And why is he trying to bribe you with not having to work?

What on earth is that nonsense ?

Was that message meant for you?
If I recieved a standalone message like that from a partner/husband I would assume it had been sent in error.

Utterly bizarre!

I think this message was not meant for you, sorry OP but it sounds like he is cheating.

Is it because English is not his first language that it reads like that?

I'd think my DH had lost his mind if he sent me that message

Negging, Future Faking, & sub-par Love Bombing - all in one short text OP!

What a prince.
What a pile of steaming bullshit.
WTF is he thinking? What is he trying to make YOU think?

Actually - scrub that. There's nothing to think about is there?
Dump the deluded, arrogant, barely literate twat.

Wow, sorry you are with such an idiot. I think I would give him the chance to explain himself sober.

I guess what he’s getting at is that he’s fallen for women who are not interested in him in the past and had that intense unrequited love pain that he’s never had with you. Then he’s settled into life with you and (as in most relationships) had ups and downs and things he doesn’t like. Whereas these unrequited loves of the past have remained perfect in his head which would never have happened had he ended up with them.

The first few lines read like song lyrics or some God-awful chain letter. I would be very unhappy to receive that too OP

It's not a declaration of undying love, is it ☹
You say the relationship has been 'on and off' for 10 years. This would be the push I needed to end it for good.

@Glittersparkle76

Me working, you a lady of leisure

Is that something you've already agreed? I'm not sure I would want to give up my financial independence... 🌹

He is fully English,born and bred so I can't blame poor English skills for what he's written!

Weird.

If I got that out of the blue I’d think either guilty conscience about something, or not meant for me. Sorry. Perhaps I’m overly suspicious although I’ve got no reason to be. It’s just such a weird message

Completely agree.

Actually that’s a good point, was the message meant for you? It would make more sense being sent to a lover but his staying with his partner (having his cake and eating it)

I'm pretty sure the message was definitely for me,we have discussed in the future when our daughter has left home me moving to where he works but I've always said I would work as I could never be reliant on anybody else financially,I need my own financial security.

I wouldn't feel very good about receiving this message.

"Want to love", "right now" ended up with" all sounds non-committal to me despite you having a child with him.