What would you make of this message?

[Glittersparkle76]

My partner and I have been together on and off for nearly 10 years and we have a 9 year old daughter.He works away in hospitality and comes back to me and my daughter when he gets days off.I woke during the early hours and found this message he had sent,all lovely until I read the part when he said he had loved others more!,I thought WTAF??,why would you even need to say that to me?,are some things best left unsaid??.He's meant to be coming back late tonight for 3 days but now I feel like telling him to fuck off and don't bother!.Am I overreacting to this message?,I feel like I'm second,third or even fourth best now and don't think I will ever be able to get that comment out of my head.
Even if I felt in my past I had loved others more than I do him,I would never say that to him as I don't feel it needs to be said!.
I would love others opinions on this and how they would feel if their partner sent them this message.

Well, the problem is that the majority don't end up doing that - the park rules dictate that the caravan they bought is 'out of date' and then the older person has to find another £50,000+ down the back of the built in sofa cushions to buy another one once it hits 12-15 years old. And once that original one is scrapped (because the site owner won't allow it to remain on site), they're homeless and skint.

He sounds pissed in that message.

Am I the only one who thinks the OP is being a high maintenance drama queen, looking for offence where it wasn't intended, way over-reacting to a sweet drunk message of love, and the poor (clearly drunk) man can do no right for doing wrong? FFS. I think he, is the one better off without her. Please OP, leave him. He deserves better. You, need to grow up.

Yes you’re literally the only one that thinks that - maybe that should tell you something!

I wouldn't put it like that, but I did find the OPs texts a bit accusatory and not enormously constructive. Obviously all this is seen out of context by us, perhaps this incident was the last straw. However, clearly they are not suited and she will be happier without him, so that's that. I wish the OP well in this new beginning.

I do hope so.

Am I the only one who thinks the OP is being a high maintenance drama queen

@Alb0 You're pretty much the only one who thinks that. What he said was very obnoxious.

I wouldn't put it like that, but I did find the OPs texts a bit accusatory and not enormously constructive

@SpringBadger What he said was not ok, and it's right that she highlights that and confronts him. Yes, it's accusatory because he's being a twat. The only constructive thing she should do is bin him.

I mean I guess we’re all different but your perception of what he meant does seem to be in the minority.

Wasn’t it just his first text that was a drunk one anyway? How are the rest excusable?

He means well.

How are you op? How’s it going?