What would you make of this message?

[Glittersparkle76]

My partner and I have been together on and off for nearly 10 years and we have a 9 year old daughter.He works away in hospitality and comes back to me and my daughter when he gets days off.I woke during the early hours and found this message he had sent,all lovely until I read the part when he said he had loved others more!,I thought WTAF??,why would you even need to say that to me?,are some things best left unsaid??.He's meant to be coming back late tonight for 3 days but now I feel like telling him to fuck off and don't bother!.Am I overreacting to this message?,I feel like I'm second,third or even fourth best now and don't think I will ever be able to get that comment out of my head.
Even if I felt in my past I had loved others more than I do him,I would never say that to him as I don't feel it needs to be said!.
I would love others opinions on this and how they would feel if their partner sent them this message.

After ten years together with a child he sends this wankery?

This would be game over for me @Glittersparkle76 He doesn't love you.

This is right up there with posters who put 'my current husband....'

At first I thought are these song lyrics 😂 they seem to rhyme he sounds drunk and rambling

the loved others more would piss me off yes

Are you sure the message was for you?
After 10 years, that's a bloody insult
You'll do.. for now

Jesus, I'd be running over the hill and far away after that load of old bollox .... and thanking my lucky stars it had been said now before we were already installed in our luxury caravan by the sea.

You deserve so much better OP. This twat thinks far too highly of his high and mighty self. Be strong and ditch the dead weight, you deserve to be number 1.

Sounds like he is a Stephen Stills fan ...

Well, there's a rose in a fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can't be with the one you love, honey
Love the one you're with
Love the one you're with
Love the one you're with
Love the one you're with

Oh I'm so sorry to read your update
Even more reason to get rid and put yourself and DD first
You own your house, and have had time apart during the 10 years
How does he enrich your life?.. As a relationship should
He's not worth it, IMHO

He sounds like a dick. He lusted after someone when he was 29, and she never even knew, yet he says he loved her more than you, mother of his child?
Hes so immature, not sure how you put up with that crap, lifes too short.

I'm sorry but this made me laugh out loud

Your reply is perfectly worded and yes, you deserve better than this 52 year old teenager
Anyone of 52 has baggage, yes, but they don't usually smack their partner in the face with texts like that

Run, run, RUN for the hills!!!!

Do not give up your secure tenancy for this idiot.

Oh, he's one of those numpties who thinks putting 'FACT' at the end of their message makes it more convincing.

It doesn't.

Is English his first language?
I can't work out if it's poor communication or he's a massive cf

I feel kind of sorry for him but you can do better. Why was he randomly thinking of someone he lusted over decades ago and then comparing you to her?

Jesus. You do not need this naval-gazing halfwit in your life.

So he loved someone he'd never even spoken to more than he loves you??? And he's still thinking about her after 20 years?? He's a complete fucking fantasist IMO, you can't love someone you've never even spoken to, that's just lust not love - and you're never going to be able to compete with some 20 year old fantasy that he's built in something amazing. I'd be concerned about narc tendencies at this point.

it can be mended but there's a lot of explaining to do from his part.

I’d run a mile from anybody who expected me to live in a caravan TBH. Who the fuck wants to spend their old age living in a caravan?

Be very wary of the person who tells you it’s your own fault because you’ve taken it wrong, a 52 year old Who refuses to acknowledge your feelings and blames you for their own behavior is a feature, not a bug.

@Glittersparkle76 wow, you have the patience of a saint. Unfortunately I think a lot of other posters here have it right, he seems like a semi-delusional emotionally immature idiot. I hope that’s not too hurtful to say, you seem much, much smarter and more authentic than he is.
I think most intelligent women have to deal with at least one of these in a lifetime. I’m afraid because you are normal, you may be expecting to interact with him on the same level, but he’s not on the same level is he?
He sounds like a teenager in his texts, I think you seem too smart and articulate to find this man easy to respect. Do you respect him as an equal? He really doesn’t seem like your equal.
Unless he is a totally different person outside of his texts, some people are really weird texters.

Oh, I love 'arseholian'

Well, what more is there to explain, really? He sent an overly-honest drunk text, and she didn't like it. It seems like he's tried to explain himself and she still doesn't like what she hears. At this point, rather than waste time trying to browbeat some sense out of him, I think the OP needs to either move past it, or consider whether she actually wants to be with him.

I think it can be mended too, if you can see past the fact that he comes across a big thick in his texts, but definitely definitely do not go and live in a caravan with him. Don't give up your secure home. Aside from anything else you'll be freezing in the winter.

Awful message
Terrible grammar
Cringe use of emojis
Inability to 'read the room'.

I'd have problems with this on every level tbh.

Oh OP,
What a gobshite.

Is he of very low intelligence to be twittering on as he does?

52...🙄

Whatever you decide, please never give up the security of your home.

And definitely not for a fantasist twitterer like him.

You don't live together?

Imagine being stuck in a campervan with that?

Scary.

You deserve better.