Would you be put off by a man who doesn't drive?

[ItDoesMyHeadIn]

I was. Cancelled the date. I'm being too fussy apparently. To be fair my friend is married to a man who doesn't drive and he's amazing. Neither of my parents drive. The guy I was going to date could afford it, he just can't be arsed. He is happy to walk everywhere or use public transport. Up to him. But I would want to be with someone who can literally take the wheel sometimes. Like fuck do I want to be the one driving 8 hours up to Scotland for a holiday, or being the one to always collect the takeaway etc. I'm pretty traditional and sometimes I admit I would want my man to pick me up and take me out for dinner etc (fuck off crazy feminists, yes I can take myself out for dinner). I didn't actually realise how much of a deal breaker this was until it was put in front of me! Interested in opinions...

Reversing cameras have changed all that I'm afraid. No arms on headrests required.

I wouldn't have wanted to date a man who doesn't drive, as I do and I wouldn't want to be the one driving everywhere. And if he was going to be 'the one' driving our DC everywhere too.

Yes, I'd be put off. Could perhaps get over it if it was for medical reasons etc but if it was a choice, I wouldn't be happy and it would take a lot to get over it. I'm aware that this may mean I miss out on some rich, sexy hunka burning love whose chauffeur drives his Bentley for him if I should become single in the future and it's a risk I'm willing to take.

I'm just attracted to efficient men who get shit done and I'm not attracted to the idea of being the sole driver.

I would want my man to pick me up and take me out for dinner etc - christ the princessy daters are out in force today!

No it wouldn't bother me. I like driving and prefer it to being a passenger.

It would give me the ick. I still remember being in a car once with an ex of many years ago - I was in the back seat and he was in the front passenger side. I was disgusted. Yanbu. I also couldn't date someone who insisted on going 50/50 for everything or someone who wears skinny jeans and tan boots. Date who you like.

For me it depends where you live and aspire to live in the future. If you're rural and would realistically be giving lifts all the time, deal breaker. If you're urban or somewhere with good bus links then it's fine, you've said he's happy getting public transport or walking.

oooooh yes- this too!

There is something so sexy about a man who does this and can drive well, to me, it just seems a bit...immature if a guy cant drive

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A few years back I would've said I didn't mind.
But now..totally get where you are coming from. It would be a total nightmare. Can't really do anything spontaneous and he just wouldn't be able to look after you in the same way.

I know it's a typo but I have an image of the cat going into the corner shop after being driven there 😂😂

But in all seriousness I know plenty people like that who would rather drive to the local
Shop than walk.

It would put me off. It’s a very useful life skill. I understand he may not need or be able to afford a car at his current life stage but driving us one of those things like cooking, ironing, home maintenance etc that adults should learn how to do. For me it would be more about what other life skills he doesn’t have and how dependent he is on others and how much he expects others to do things for him.

My in-laws live 17 hours away by road. When we move later this year they will be over 40 hours by road away. No way would I be doing all the driving to visit them. Actually when we move we will likely fly but currently we drive to see them and we share the driving.

Not an issue for me. I've done a few 8/9 hour drives solo, I just take breaks as and when needed. I don't get why people would find owning a PlayStation or XBox a dealbreaker though? I have a PS4 myself and I'm on it most days!

Oooooh my ex was 50/50 on EVERYTHING. It drove me fucking nuts. "Your turn to get the chinese tomorrow as I bought you 3 gins earlier" 🤮

They're allowed to be princesses if they want. They're not entitled to a man to do it for them, but if that's what they like, they're allowed to hold out for it.

For me, it's less about being picked up etc and more about the fact that in my experience, a man who expects you to do all the running is never a good call.

Very odd that someone who walks, cycles or uses public transport would be considered lazier than someone who walks from their doorstep to their driveway.

No, it wouldn't and didn't bother me.

Some people don't learn to drive citing environmental issues. But it is an essential skill, and there is nothing to say you have to actually own a car at all times. They could hire a car or use carpools if ever needing to drive.

Who was driving?

You were disgusted that he was in the passenger seat?

That's one lazy cat!

What's that got to do with being a driver? If he's selfish enough to sit as a passenger and not deal with the kids, that's because he's selfish not because he can't drive.

Bit weird

I’d be put off by anyone who uses the phrase ‘fuck off crazy feminists’: I think your non-driving non-date has had a lucky escape tbf.

Yes, there was that.

It would be a dealbreaker for me at the age I am now (late 30s). I mean, if you live in a major city... I guess... just about okay. But anywhere else... do one. I'm no-ones chauffeur.
And all the non-drivers who are all "I'd never ask for a lift!" If your partner drove and owned a car, and it was a choice of walk 20 mins in the pissing rain, or travel in a warm, comfortable car... Don't lie.

"Fuck off crazy feminists"?

Without feminism, you would probably not even be able to drive yourself.

I actually imagined it as the cat being harnessed to a carriage while the poster took the reins. And promptly lost the plot because the harnessed cat was just standing by the open door of the cat stable trying to decide whether or not to go out.

Love it! 🤣