Would you be put off by a man who doesn't drive?

[ItDoesMyHeadIn]

I was. Cancelled the date. I'm being too fussy apparently. To be fair my friend is married to a man who doesn't drive and he's amazing. Neither of my parents drive. The guy I was going to date could afford it, he just can't be arsed. He is happy to walk everywhere or use public transport. Up to him. But I would want to be with someone who can literally take the wheel sometimes. Like fuck do I want to be the one driving 8 hours up to Scotland for a holiday, or being the one to always collect the takeaway etc. I'm pretty traditional and sometimes I admit I would want my man to pick me up and take me out for dinner etc (fuck off crazy feminists, yes I can take myself out for dinner). I didn't actually realise how much of a deal breaker this was until it was put in front of me! Interested in opinions...

Wow! It's fine for you to be traditional. Very rude of you to call feminists crazy. You want people's opinion but you want to call some of those people names. Charmed.

When we met dp didn't drive. He learned and was ready to sit his test but lockdown happened. Hopefully he can sit it in the next few weeks. He just never had a reason to learn before now.

You “massively judge” someone for not driving 🤔 some of these views are so extreme

It would be a deal breaker for me, but that's because I live in a rural town in outback Australia where there is no public transport and you can't even walk to a shop, because it's too far. It would take 5 hours or more.

If I moved back to England and lived in a town or big city where there was plenty of public transport and lots of local amenities in walking distance then it wouldn't bother me at all. Having to drive everywhere is a pain in the arse. If you want him to take you out to dinner then couldn't he just pick you up in a taxi? That would surely be preferable anyway because then you'd both be able to drink as much as you like and not worry about having to drive home!

Overall I think owning a vehicle is a bloody chore, fuel prices are mental, always worrying about finding and maybe even paying for a place to park, not being able to have a drink if you want one... if I didn't absolutely need a car then I wouldn't bother. The world could do with less cars anyway.

Obviously I appreciate that everyone's priorities are different. Just throwing in my two cents.

It doesn't matter what we think - if it puts you off that he doesn't drive, then that's enough of a reason to ditch him. I think it's important to respect yourself enough to voice these feelings early on. If it bothers you now then it will probably be bothering you even more 6 months/3 years down the line. If it's important to you then stick to your guns. Good luck with the dating!

Right?! These things are bizarre.

I wouldn't date someone that couldn't drive

I don't think all feminists are crazy, but there are definitely some crazy ones on here. We all know the type, they'd rather chop their own arm off than allow a man to treat them to a meal. I won't be dragged into a row on that so I wouldn't bother starting a pile on.

As for the PlayStation Xbox thing, I wouldn't mind so much as long as they weren't glued to it 247. I have a Nintendo myself and love a good binge a few times per year! I can see why people think it's immature though.

Crazy is the wrong word I will apologise for that bit - extreme, over the top is more suitable.

As far as I know I have never met anyone over the age of 20 who can't drive.

I won't be dragged into a row on that so I wouldn't bother starting a pile on.

How can you be "dragged into" a row that you started with an offensive and ignorant statement?

We all know the type, they'd rather chop their own arm off than allow a man to treat them to a meal.

So? What's that to you? Be grateful they're not taking those men off the market so they're still there for you.

But the thing is people can date whoever they like whether that makes them shallow or not. I couldn't be with someone who's a staunch homebody because I just love being out and about. Similarly I couldn't date someone who likes to talk too much as I value peace and quiet. Shallow preferences are OK!

Can I date you?! 🤣

Up to you i guess but no wouldnt put me off neither of us drove when i met dh-he cycled everywhere and used public transport

i learnt about ten years after we met-i prefer to be the driver anyway or i get travel sick

Depends on the age. I wish I had not dated and gone on to marry someone who doesn’t drive.
over the years it has driven me max that he can never do the taxiing the children around. That I had to take all of us to rugby tournaments far away from home and not just be able to stay at home with the dc not playing. That I never get to have even one glass of wine if we go out for dinner as I’m always driving. If we go to a bbq guess who’s driving and who’s drinking. And yes I know we could get a taxi but a lot of the time the budget doesn’t allow for a taxi. It’s dinner or a taxi and not both.

lots of other things about h at the moment that also drove me mad but the not driving is a huge one.

Deal breaker for me. Unless he knows how to drive but doesn’t need to.

i know loads of people what a weird statement

What an odd thing to say, you would get a bus, a cab, or an ambulance @MarmiteCoriander

Never met anyone who cant drive?
Really 🙈 @Isleofwhite

No wonder you're single. ...

I can see why people wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t drive but these comments are way over the top, “massively judge” someone in what way?! I live in London I know a lot of people that don’t drive, also lazy? I walk way more than any of the people I know that drive, people that drive their kids to school etc whereas I walk mine, yet I’m the “lazy” one 🤣

I don’t know anyone that can’t drive except for DH’s elderly Aunt who never has done. I know people that CAN drive but choose not to.
But it’s probably because I live in an area where public transport is patchy and unreliable and if you don’t drive it’s dry restricting.

I'm a feminist but have never considered chopping my arm off.

@ItDoesMyHeadIn but who's gonna pay for dinner?

*Very

I'll pay, but only if you play on the Nintendo with me afterwards 🤣