To be proud of how I dealt with this? TW indecent exposure.

[205wanker]

Today I had walked my puppy and she'd settled and fallen asleep so I took advantage of the moment (if I'd headed home she be doing puppy parkour and I wouldn't have been able to concentrate on the important Mumsnet daily chores.

A car pulled up and parked in the other side of the car park and a mid 20s male got out and started wandering around as though waiting for someone. I did the obvious and didn't make eye contact but I was aware of his presence, and he of mine.

After a short while he moved his car alongside to mine, facing the same way, I thought nothing of it as he'd moved it from a sunny space to a shaded spot.

He then was hanging around the front of his car I thought still waiting to be joined by someone.

Realisation dawned and he's there stroking his penis.

I immediately put phone into record mode and started filming him, sadly I didn't catch the act.

He jumped in his car and gesticulated "what's your issue" at me.

I wound down the window and asked him if he enjoyed intimidating women.

"I was only having a piss"

"no no you were stroking it"

"I didn't know you were in there"

"yes you did, you really did"

"you've got black out windows"

"only on the back, you knew full well I was there"

"I was only having a piss"

"you were doing it deliberately, it's all on dash cam and on this recording - old women don't stand for this shit these days"

He then sped off. And I stopped recording.

I followed him, absolutely raging. No idea what I hoped to achieve but the adrenalin was flowing.

I caught up with him at some lights but lost him after he did and illegal turn after he spotted me.

While at the lights I'd pulled badly over a keep clear area to keep up with him, and a woman trying to get into McDonald's gave me the eyebrow, so I rolled down the window and told her I was following a man who'd just flashed at me. She understood.

I've had lots of glorious puppy cuddles and feel like it's not even going to affect my well being for more than a moment of time, though his face and hairless groin keeps flitting into my consciousness.

I'm at the hairdressers atm, I'll call 101 asaic. His car is taxed, mot-ed and insured so he's likely to be traced, if the police decide to investigate.

Not really sure why I'm posting here but I'm so fucking proud of how I feel. Angry, amused(the old women comment still giving me the chortle), proud that it hasn't
affected my mental state like the previous 4 similar incidents, which left me scared and anxious.

So AIBU to be proud of not letting this gutter critter intimidate me?

She already said she didn't know hat she was hoping to achieve but the adrenaline was running.

Well done op! fuck the moaners. hopefully that little perv will thi k again before he gets his little cock out again

Ha! Good on you for scaring the shit out of him. Brilliant.❤️ All power to you @205wanker

Yes. That's it. You've got it. was driving recklessly.

I was going to catch him and set my ferocious 4month old Golden Retriever puppy on him.

Stranger on a chat forum manages to work out menopausal adrenaliney frumpy fifty year old's intentions.

Slow hand clap

Dunno, it's right there in the first post.

Well done OP!
I think the police will take it seriously - they should.
These bastards need stopping in their tracks.
I wish I was assertive when I've been flashed at in the past but the shock and everything else just didn't help.
Worst one was when I was 13. Never told anyone but utterly disgusting.

@gamerchick

Yuck, you’re so patronising

And when you say
“Driving so it raises eyebrows isn't cool.”

What are you on about?! OP has confirmed that she was not driving remotely recklessly.

@gamerchick

You’re acting like Op has driven like some kind of boy racer! Really don’t know where you’ve got that from looking at OP’s posts

I absolutely love that your actions are freaking people out @205wanker!

It’s really fascinating to watch how completely outraged - almost personally offended! - some people are by you giving as good as you got (well, not literally, thank goodness!) to this pervert!

Won’t somebody think of the perverts!?!?

That's you dear. I'm not the one banging on about it. Continue

All the posters criticising OP for following him should be ashamed of themselves. The important part of this story is that the man flashed at OP and she called him out on it, to the extent that he retreated without having his fun. If all women did this, men would stop flashing. And what a better world that would be!

Op I think that you are utterly bonkers but I love it. You lost it in the moment and stuck up for all of us as women. I think I would have done the same 👍👍

I know!!

some women really hate women!

and the idea of women fighting back is clearly petrifying to some.

And mostly the response from the police is inadequate to say the least. Let’s expose them ( not literally!) on the street, on public transport, outside schools , wherever they show up. And we must support each other when we see one of us shouting out.

I hope his cock falls off. Thank you for pursuing this formally OP.

Are you sure he wasn't stroking it to get the last few drops of urine out? This can be done and some uncircumcised men do it to stop it dribbling after taking a leak.

Wait a minute, where did the TW bit come from? Doesn't mention anything about it in the OP. I'm a bit confused.

Yes because men typically move their car to park it alongside a woman’s for a piss.

Either way, one has definitely sexually assaulted the other, whether it was the young man indecently exposing himself or actually OP attempting to video the penis of an unsuspecting youth taking a pee.

??
The whole OP is about indecent exposure! Hence the TW in case people are sensitive.

Or to piss between two cars for some privacy.

Oh, I read it as 'transwoman'.

I was 5 when I encountered my first flasher.

Well done OP.

Even if the police don't do anything, it will be on record for the next time.

You're not alone in the following people thing. I was waiting to exit the Tesco petrol station. The exit joins onto the little road out of the car park, so was waiting for it to clear. A car drove past, I was looking straight into the passenger side. A teen girl chucked her can out the window and it bounced off my bonnet. They then joined the queue at the roundabout on the way out of Tesco. I got out and grabbed the can but the queue was moving so got back in my car and followed them. Handed the mother the can and told her how disgusting her daughter had behaved by chucking her rubbish out and onto another car. Told her she was literally in a vehicle heading home and could she not just take her rubbish home with her.

I probably did something illegal. It was probably harassment or something. But I don't care. We live in a small town, we organise community gardening and litter picking etc. And kids in cars with their parents are chucking their rubbish out the window. Nope. They deserve to be told what shit parenting they're doing.

This is a weird thread. Why are people getting so upset about the driving? It didn’t cross my mind when I read the post. Only fair play OP for standing up to the pervert. Giving him a taste of his own medicine. These guys get off on the power - sooo good to turn the tables. Why are other posters fixating on the driving? It’s weird.

Internalised misogyny much 🙄