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Original poster

Dick pic

171 replies

Glovesick · 04/06/2022 11:43

I received a sexy pose dick pic, clearly by accident from a friend's husband. I have deleted it.

I am no prude, I can't imagine it was on purpose.

I can't unsee the pic, though. How do I style this out?

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AllPlayedOut · 04/06/2022 11:44

I don't think it was an accident.

Coldnoseandtoes · 04/06/2022 11:46

Did he immediately reply and convey his embarrassment, and apologise?! I'd totally ignore it ever happened. Gross.

HappySM1 · 04/06/2022 11:46

Would you expect an apology?

He knows I have seen it from the read receipt.

HappySM1 · 04/06/2022 11:47

No apology or other communication.

SpacePotato · 04/06/2022 11:47

Accident? Doubt it.

Trudij123 · 04/06/2022 11:49

Last one I had came with the message “what would you do with this?” So I screenshot it, drew a face and a wig on along with a guillotine and sent it back…

im another one for ignoring it to be honest, if you’re certain it was an accident then he’s the one who will be far more embarrassed about the situation. Just make a joke out of it next time you see him and see what he says from there…

Original poster
Glovesick · 04/06/2022 11:49

It's totally out of keeping with our friendship. I have known them for years. There is no flirtation or other even mildly inappropriate behaviour. That's just not an element in our friendship.

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JamesMartinsWaistcoat · 04/06/2022 11:50

Name change fail?

Original poster
Glovesick · 04/06/2022 11:51

I would feel better if he apologised, however cringey and hard that will be for him. Otherwise I am left wondering whether he is a pervert. Surely it's better he clears his name with me?

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Testina · 04/06/2022 11:52

I couldn’t not reply!
Simple “not meant for me? 😭” would do it.
No need to “style out” anything.
That ways it’s no-one’s embarrassing secret that they don’t know how to handle.

Original poster
Glovesick · 04/06/2022 11:56

If I don't reply, will he think I liked it? Ewwww.

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AmaryIlis · 04/06/2022 11:59

Tell your friend.

Needanotherholidayasap · 04/06/2022 11:59

Just message back

Is that all you've got?
He won't ever message you again.

Momicrone · 04/06/2022 12:00

I would ask the friend it was meant for her

ElenaSt · 04/06/2022 12:02

Was it definitely his dick?

CandyLeBonBon · 04/06/2022 12:02

Why wouldn't you just say 'I assume this was t meant for me?'

Eightiesfan · 04/06/2022 12:03

I would hazard, it wasn’t meant for you….but in this case I doubt it was for his wife either!

I once got a really flirty email from a friends husband asking about plans for the weekend, and asking about where I’d like to go.

I forwarded it to his wife (copying him in) saying that I thought this message was for her - we have the same first name, unless of course, he was asking me on a date, in which case I would need to speak to DP to make sure he was available to look after our kids.

The poor man was mortified!

Hugasauras · 04/06/2022 12:04

How good a friend is she?

What about something like: 'Hi X, this is really awkward but I just got sent a really explicit pic from Y which I'm guessing was sent to me by mistake? I obviously deleted it immediately but wanted to let you and him know.'

PonyPatter44 · 04/06/2022 12:04

Its not for YOU to style out, surely. Its for him.

I used to send the unwanted dick pics to my friend Big Gay Kev, and tell the sender so. BGK didn't object and the senders HATED it.

EBearhug · 04/06/2022 12:06

It could have been sent in error. I was sent screenshot of someone's son's passport a couple of days ago. I just asked if he'd meant to send it to me (no.)

Had I been sent a dick pic,it might depend who it was from,but I'd probably end up ignoring it in lieu of thinking up a good response. If it was ever mentioned, I'd probably say, I assumed it wasn't for me, and just deleted it.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 04/06/2022 12:09

You could have forwarded it to DH and added 'I think he must have meant to send this to you' (as he's his friend)

DeanStockwelll · 04/06/2022 12:10

ElenaSt · 04/06/2022 12:02

Was it definitely his dick?

I am fairly sure that @Glovesick knows what one looks like 😂

I like pp for editing the photo and sending it back , if you are absolutely positive it's a mistake then it was sent to you I would make light of it and just him back a text saying he got the wrong number / is this meant for your partner etc.

If you have any doubt at all it would just be a message, ewwwww !

KyaClark · 04/06/2022 12:12

@DeanStockwelll

Pretty sure @ElenaSt meant did the dick definitely belong to the sender, not was it definitely a dick...

Momicrone · 04/06/2022 12:12

Why do men feel the need to show their penises all the time, it's gross behaviour

asco · 04/06/2022 12:12

I would have replied straight away with
"I sincerely hope that was not meant for me?"