Dick pic

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I received a sexy pose dick pic, clearly by accident from a friend's husband. I have deleted it.

I am no prude, I can't imagine it was on purpose.

I can't unsee the pic, though. How do I style this out?

id really like to reply

bit small, surprised wife is satisfied

but I d probably reply wtf

I would reply with 'Are you expecting a picture back? Wouldn't hold your breath.'
Quite clearly shutting it down, but not necessarily making it clear you're embarrassed because a fair few men get off on that. His job to make things not-weird.

Let his wife know. What if she sees it on his phone and thinks the two of you are having an affair?

“Is that your thumb?”

Can you undelete it? If so, if you have his wife's contact number, forward that text pic on to her and say "what is this about? why did he send me a dick pick? Or did he mean it for ..... ..... (the other person who has your same name)". Honestly, OP, the wife truly deserves to know. However you do it, please do it. Any woman/wife would want to knnow.

@Spidey66 😂😂 that's exactly the vision I had too

We need a diagram, OP.

If you wait u til you're face to face then wife will blame the messenger.

You yourself have come up with the ideal scenario - that it was meant for the wife, as a 'come back to bed' plea, a holiday jape. So send it to both of them with many laughing emojis etc. let the wife work things out for herself. Your part is over and you've covered your arse.

Everyone has accidently texted the wrong person at least once... I just dont have a dick so never a dick pic but I can see how it would happen if 'sexting' is something you do.

I have a terrible habit of texting co-workers or sometimes clients (basically whoever messaged me last) accidental messages meant for my husband.

Always dull stuff like 'Are you doing the school run today?' or 'Did you pick up Leighs medicine?' or 'What you wanna watch on netflix tonight?' and then having to send the 'sorry that was for my husband' message but sometime if I'm busy I dont realise for hours and I must look insane.

This is where the thread jumped the shark for me.

I’d send it to both of them saying “oops wife’s name, I think this was meant for you”

Tell his wife so she can snatch the phone and look at the messages between him and his friend

The ONLY thing to do in these situations is be open and honest immediately. Do not cover up or hide anything.

Reply with - guess that wasn't meant for me! 🤣 Bet Sally is as equally embarrassed on your behalf!

Text Sally, assuming he has told her - Is he dying from embarrassment? I don't know how I am going to be able to look him in the face again! Don't worry photo has been deleted, I am off to wash my eyes out with bleach now!

Tell your dh and have a laugh at him being so stupid.

Don't make it into a drama with Omg, I just realised he has a close friend with the same name as me. Oh no. Please no. It is immature and disrespectful to your friends. If there is anything sinister going on it is not your place to get involved, to hide things or make decisions. Any fall out is solely his responsibility.

This ⬆️
I can’t see you have any choice but to message them both at the same time and say “Hi Jane and John. John’s just sent me a dickpic. I expect it was an accident but I am mortified”.

If you don’t do this straight away you are at serious risk of getting implicated in their mess. If it was an accident it gives him the chance to apologise to you both.

Me too 🙄

Oh.. act IMMEDIATELY, send it to the wife 'x sent this, assuming it was meant for you'.

Any other action... is dodgy/suspicious/worse - if you hang around and do nothing and eventually it comes out that you knew/saw... bad, you are complicit with his behaviour...

If you hang around and then tell her later... you've sat and thought about it and are worried and.. the messenger gets shot.

Do it immediately as if you saw it and sent it on to her and just assumed it was for her then she knows and she can join the dots or not, up to her.

This!

Why does he even have your number if you are not close friends with either of them? I can understand her having it, but why him?

Did you know that if you click on see all below the OPs posts you can save time by only readin those?

Even if she hadn't already explained when did the phone numbers must only be shared with close friends rule come in?

I would just reply and say "I think you sent that to the wrong person 😂", and leave it at that.

Please message him something because I want to hear his response!

Just msg back saying
Awkward?!! Think you sent this to the wrong person 🙈🙈🙈Then you’ve acknowledged it, made it clear you’re cringing, but that he probably sent in error. No big deal then you can move on.

Please don’t do this. Can you imagine being on the receiving end of that? Just reading it made me feel sick. If you think you should tell her (I’m ambivalent), have the decency to do it in person.

My query about the reason you were messaging him at all while he was on holiday was nothing to do with victim blaming and more about the whole thread sounding like a load of badly made up bollocks.

Especially the amazing ''Who could it possibly be meant for? OH MY GOD I've just remembered .....' <clutches face>' bit.

1/10 OP

Omg, I just realised he has a close friend with the same name as me. Oh no. Please no.

Isn’t that such a mad coincidence.

Assume it was innocent & message wife:

’OMG! Please tell x that he sent the dick pic to me by mistake - my eyes are bleeding! Glad you’re having fun though!’