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[JellyTots22]

I am due to attend a party tomorrow (today) with a friend. My best friend....my maid of honour.

Recently my friend has lost a lot of weight, I have told her numerous times she looks great, my DH has also complimented her her. She has previously openly said she thinks my DH is fit!!

Before her weight loss (last summer) she was attending a party with me and drunkenly told me "she knows my DH is obsessed with her" my DH has been a great friend to her but backed off since this comment.

For context I have a very happy marriage, my DH is wonderful!! My friend has 3 DC by different dads, we have her DC for weekends regularly so she can go on dates. We pay for her and her DC to come on holiday every year, we've been friends for 18 years 14 of which I have been with my DH.

Anyway friend since losing weight has changed A LOT!! She has gone man mad and believes everyone fancies her. Literally a man stopped his car to let her cross the road, she then said it was because he fancied her and pretty much stalked him on Facebook, Primary School PE teacher has spoken to her twice because of her DC missing kit items for lessons.....he must fancy her!! She's exhausting to go out with she oggles men, anyone who looks back....they fancy her!!

I have today received 2 text messages off different friends saying my BF has brought a tarty outfit for said party to impress my DH and is quite happy telling people this.

AIBU to think what the fuck and who even does shit like this?

DH has never ever shown any untoward interest in her but she has said jokingly he'd be a great dad to her kids. I've never thought much about her comments well until lately and after receiving the texts today.

I now as does my DH feel worried about attending the party. We've only ever helped her and her DC but it feels like she is trying to make me look an absolute idiot infront of our friends. DH said he'll now feel uncomfortable if she tries to talk to him.

We have a holiday booked with her in August (paid for by me!!)

Absolutely no jealously whatsoever from my side, she's 6 years older than me and my DH 14 years older than me. She is also despite her amazing weigh loss bigger than me. I have absolutely no reason to be jealous of her but I am absolutely dreading attending party with her tomorrow and I keep thinking why the fuck is she going after my DH, she stood by my side during our vows 10 years ago. I just feel hurt and embarrassed!!

Who needs enemies when you have a friend like mine 😩 what would you do?

C'mon OP, give us an update?

Did she get all 'Abigail's party' on your DH?

I wasn't and am not looking for an argument, but why didn't you pick up on the other person who suggested what I did but you've clearly let their post slide right on past you, but you picked on mine???

You have no idea who I am so to come out with a blanket statement like that is just wrong. Oh, and I wasn't wondering. I'm perfectly pleasant.

Very good thought

Just laugh at her patheticness

@JellyTots22 - how did it go?

I hope the messages your friend sent did sink in. Otherwise it's going to be down to your DH to tell her she is making him uncomfortable.

How did it go OP?

Any update??

How did it go @JellyTots22 ?

There is no thread I've ever wanted an update from more!

Think OP was a bit butt-hurt when we wouldn't join in calling her 'friend' a 'desperate tart' etc

Any update @JellyTots22

Any update @JellyTots22

Any update @JellyTots22 ?

Any update @JellyTots22 ?

Any update @JellyTots22 ?

I'm guessing not 😆

Here for the party update 🤞

She sounds batshit crazy. Sorry for the kids but ultimately they aren't yours and you need to let this friendship go.

@JellyTots22 this sounds like perfect Daily Fail fodder. Maybe consider taking it down?

I hope you can maintain your relationship with her DC at any rate. Obv you’ll need to distance from her. You never know she might come to realise she’s made a terrible mistake?

@JellyTots22 this sounds like perfect Daily Fail fodder. Maybe consider taking it down?

I hope you can maintain your relationship with her DC at any rate. Obv you’ll need to distance from her. You never know she might come to realise she’s made a terrible mistake?

Definitely seal with it head on and you should both tell her it’s unacceptable. Do it together.

I don’t like the implied judgement on her three kids and different dads. Single mothers face a hard enough time as it is without being beaten around the head for falling for not one; but two unsuitable men. Think how shit that must feel. No wonder her self esteems on the floor, dragging her kids through presumably two breakups.

It is strange to bite the hand that feeds you and idk if you will come back op. A quick google suggests the menopause can kickstart symptoms of bipolar (in which case, this perhaps being an extended manic episode) or this could possibly be a drug reaction if she’s taking antidepressants for example. Or alternatively, she could just be a total user, who has thought this all along etc.

So sad that many women still directly equate weight with attractiveness