What should I do if anything: DS friend's mom farted in front of the boys and there's a whole group chat about it

[Evangeli]

This is actually not as light-hearted as seems.

DS16 friend's mom "Sally" is lovely woman, known them for years, have had dinners and so on at each other's places. We are also friends. We sometimes go on occasional walks with each other. She has mentioned she has digestive issues and can't go on long walks needs the washroom.

On one of these walks, "Sally" gave a really loud fart- there was silence and we talked about other things. Stupid stupid me later texted my DD (who also knows the family well) just as laugh "went for a walk with Sally she farted really loudly haha" and DD responded "omg haha" and that was that.

Fast forward a couple of months later- a couple of the boys were having a sleepover at their place (not DS- I had picked him up earlier), and apparently they heard her fart loudly and obviously found that hilarious. DS told me about it and they simply seem unable to stop talking about it- literally made a group chat named after her fart and just ridiculous silliness.

My involvement is that in the context of that conversation with DS, I happened to mention the earlier fart on the walk and made the stupid mistake of showing my text with DD "see- she does that- it's not a big deal", and before I could stop him, DS took my phone, screenshotted the text and sent it to the group chat so now I basically added fuel to the fire and I feel awful.
Also awful if the poor boy whose mother it is finds out, and if/when Sally will see my text.
We live in a small town and this is the entertainment we have, except it actually does bother me and I yelled at DS and told him he violated my privacy (he does not make a habit of screenshotting my texts).

I am actually bothered by this even though I have real life problems this is living rent-free in my head as the young 'uns say.

is there anything I can do to mitigate this situation.

Well that was ridiculous joining the teenagers in mocking your friend.

Speak to the administrator of the group asking them to delete it.

Her DS will probably be relieved finding the reason why his mates are acting like dicks with the secret group. I'm sure he'll be aware something is amiss.

I feel for your friend how awful,and you are certainly not a friend to her(you told your daughter,you should be ashamed of yourself and your son).

I suffer as part of my bowel has been removed. I would feel destroyed by you and your DD if you did something like that to me and you would never be spoken to again.

are you for real??!!!!🤬

Before you could stop him?

Liar.

What makes it worse is that you KNOW Sally has a digestive issue.

Grow the f**k up. Do better. Set a better example for your kids.

How old are you? I would guess 8 bg the way you behaved. Grow up and become a better role model to your children.

I can't believe I made it to page 2 of this shit. Sniggering yet OP, I said shit?

A fart troll to be fair but no doubt I'll be deleted for pointing out the obvious. A 9 page "thriller" generates clicks after all.

I hope ‘Sally’ finds out, tells your other friends and that it’s you who is ostracised from the group as you are clearly no friend.

Oh wow what a horrible thing to do! Esp as you know she has health issues. Even then its just a natural thing to happen.

Here I was worried about sharing a room on holiday with some friends cos my hayfever makes me snore of I end up on my back...christ if they did what you did id be mortified

You and your son showed awful behaviour
Very immature!

This is actually not as light-hearted as seems.
It doesn't seem light hearted at all. It sounds like you are your kids are bullies. Sally has a medical condition that she probably finds quite mortifying and you and your kids are laughing at her? Sally deserves better people in her life.

When (not "if") your friend finds out about this, your friendship is almost certainly over. Personally, I can think of no circumstance that would cause me to make a comment like that about another adult friend to a CHILD, and teenagers are children. It is underhanded, back-stabbing, sneak-around the corner bullying, to be quite frank about it.

And I note that in your text to DD (how old is she?), you did not say, "See, it happens to everyone!" You simply giggled about the fart. Seems your sense of humor is that of a 16-year-old-boy. Some very smart person said, "Children learn what they live." You just proved a point.

What a load of crap

Apologise in person with son present, with a gift, make the lad close the chatroom. And tell DS off properly. At the very least he has to quit the chatroom. Before that post another screenshot saying what this is bad. You caught yourself doing something bad, I hope that you are not sad because you got caught but because you understand how bad this is. Don't do it again, ever. Talking about people is always low outcome. This person probably has a condition and tries to get on with her life. Not everything you think need to be said. Not everything you said needs to be written down, let alone sent through social media. All the best. Nobody is perfect, face the crap and move on.

5/10 for effort OP.

I doubt it!

This.
You and your son sound as horrible as each other

Waves to Nan! Sort out the cruel woman and those nasty boys!

100% this!
You took the piss out of someone behind their back and now you feel bad as there’s a possibility they might find out? Glad you’re not my “friend”. Poor woman.

God, you’re a vile friend.

I’m not 100% convinced this is made up.

I would have struggled to believe there were people like this too.

Until SIL visited with her new boyfriend. They started laughing and then told a story about what happened at the spa retreat they had just been to. Apparently a ‘right fat old cow’ had fallen over and lay spread eagles in a dressing gown. They were laughing so hard that they didn’t even realise that we were just staring at them shocked.

I said how awful and asked if she had been ok. I also asked if anyone had helped as I just hate it if no one tries to help people who’ve fallen over. They didn’t even seem embarrassed about how awful they were coming across.

They are both in their 40’s.

Long enough @gamerchick and with enough common sense to see that the lazy half term trope is just that and bears no scrutiny at all

Even the with the cluncky search function it appears that the OP has been on hear at least getting on for a year

What should you do?

1. Grow up. The lady has stomach problems and you laughed about it to your daughter???


2. Take your son’s phone off him for a while as a punishment because he clearly can’t use it appropriately. I have two sons and would definitely do that. In fact I have for something much less worrying. Being phoneless for a weekend tends to concentrate the mind of a teenage boy.

Congrats on raising such wonderful children.